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WeepingBuddhist (original poster member #39139) posted at 2:11 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
LCB's first AP drove a VW Beetle. (because even though she is 40 and fucks married men, she is still cool and hip and christ, there has to be SOMETHING interesting about her) ANYWAY, I would love your ideas of something I can think of when I see this distinctive vehicle. Skankenstein is the first thing that comes to mind and then I think what a pathetic POS she is and then I think how great things are going for me, but THAT is more thinks than I'd like! There are two I pass on my commute each day, so I am dealing with this a LOT. It's been a long week so maybe this doesn't make as much sense as I'd hoped when I started typing.
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
calgon54 ( member #21529) posted at 2:15 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
What about "bug" - squish! 
BS-57-me
WS-50
DD 18
DDay Marchish 2006
Let it go........
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 2:26 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
You know the game that people play; whenever a VW beetle passes, the first one to see it punches the other one in the arm? Well, imagine punching the OW in the face when you see the beetles. 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
justjim ( member #41150) posted at 2:47 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
For you, they're no longer "Beetles".
They're CRABS!
Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.
Klove ( member #42096) posted at 4:39 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
Instead of Herbie the love bug...
HERPIES on her love bug...
"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"
WeepingBuddhist (original poster member #39139) posted at 7:45 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
Ha! you guys are fun!
Thanks!!!
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
justjim ( member #41150) posted at 8:11 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
I'm pretty sure hers is a "Dung Beetle".
Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 10:31 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
I second yelling "slug bug" and envisioning sucker punching OW in the face.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Holly-Isis ( member #13447) posted at 10:56 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
volks- people's
wagon- car
The point of the original VW beetle, IIRC, was to make a cheap car the average person could afford.
So think on how this cheap ride is driving a cheap ride. doesn't take much for someone to start her motor.
Additionally, the early versions had few if any changes over the decades. The logic was so the parts were interchangeable from year to year. You could take a part from a '63 VW bug and use it in a '75 bug and vice versa.
The HW driving the VW...she's interchangeable with any other "people's ride".
[This message edited by Holly-Isis at 4:57 PM, April 18th (Friday)]
"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*
WeepingBuddhist (original poster member #39139) posted at 7:55 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
OMG-you guys are cracking me up!!! I love all the suggestions (cheap ride in a cheap ride--LOL'd so loud my boss poked her head out of her office).
It hit me on my way home the other night that they kind of look like pods and since Skankenstein came into my life, all sorts of new shit has happened soooo, when I see one now, I just think "SEED POD" and go straight to being grateful for all the growth and change. I know! I know! boring bordering on lame but it works for me and the totally weird thing? neither of the ones usually parked on my way to work were there today!!!
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 4:50 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
I think in your original post you mentioned that the AP ended up with too much head space.... so I would try a different tactic entirely, which is to work harder to NOT associate the VW Beetle with her at all.
It's hard I know because these triggers seem hard wired into bringing up awful thoughts and feelings instantaneously.
I worked to try to re-associate triggers with new things so I could burn a different pathway in my brain that wasn't straight to pain.
How about something more along the lines of calgon's suggestion "bug" - squish? I'm thinking the whole insect concept deserves further exploration and study! See VW beetle: think about bugs. bug, beetle, insect, bee, fly, butter fly, dragon fly, let your mind wander into the realm of biology and away from relationship drama and people. You could find yourself thinking about fly fishing and the relationship between aquatic insects and trout. And you might want to take a vacation on a lake this summer. Or dung beetles and recycling of organic matter in the desert. And maybe you need to get some compost for your garden.
Work harder to take the trigger and turn it to a new, positive thought that is interesting to you and relevant to your new life. 
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
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