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User Topic: What happened to the man I Married?
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, April 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Years ago, he was there for me when I really really needed him.
We weren't dating anymore, we had broken up a few years before.
I had a family situation. He happened to call my work office with something work related. He heard something missing in my voice and asked. I told him the situation and started crying.
He jumped in his car and drove 9 hours to where I was stationed. He got about 3 hours of rest and we got in my car and drove to my family home about 6 hours away. He was by my side during a difficult time. We drove back to where I was stationed, and then he got in his car after resting and drove the 9 hours back to where he was stationed.
I asked him why he would do that for me when we weren't together anymore.
He told me that I was the one that got away. He said that I was a good person, and if a time ever came where he could make up for letting me go he would and he would always be there for me.
I didn't try to get back together then, but years later, he looked me up and love bombed me.
Because of this particular incident, I gave him another chance.
What happened to THAT man. The one that had my back and was there for me.
Guess I'm taking trips down memory lane that I don't need to. Our D will be final in 60 days unless he contests.
Just feeling sad for the waste of it all today, I guess.
Don't think I mentioned this, but he jumped in front of me when bullets were flying. F...!!!!

[This message edited by StillLivin at 3:08 PM, April 18th (Friday)]

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 4390 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, April 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry you're feeling sad, StillLivin. Those trips down memory lane are rough on me too.

Posts: 417 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southeast
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Member # 30853
Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, April 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's the hardest thing to reconcile, when you remember who they were and what they represented vs. who they are now. I'm sorry. I know the feeling. I don't know where that guy went, but he's likely lost forever. The thing to remember is that you just don't have itin you to look for that guy anymore. You now need to find yourself again and all energy, as hard as that is sometimes, has to be put toward that.

BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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