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healingtree posted 4/19/2014 12:17 PM

I uprooted my family to start fresh in a new state half way across the country. When my XWH finally gave up the lie of "I love you" and rode off into the sunset, I was left out here, with no family, alone.

New Beginnings - hauling my behind back to New England. Home. For me.

There is nothing keeping me here.

Anybody ever drive from Texas to Maine?

inconnu posted 4/19/2014 12:23 PM

Best of luck on your new beginning. I've done the drive from Texas to Connecticut, once. Then back again. I had my sister with me to do some of the driving, but we were pulling a small trailer (like a small U-Haul size) and my kids were a lot younger, so we took 3 days for the drive. We did this during springtime, so it was actually a pretty drive.

healingtree posted 4/19/2014 12:48 PM

Kind of came up all of a sudden, so I am scrambling to get a hold of the enormity of the venture. My kids will probably be flying, but I will have two doggies with me. Hoping to find someone to do the drive with me.

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 4/19/2014 13:04 PM

I believe it's about 33 hours to drive from where you are, so you'll have to break that up.

It'll be a tough trip, but I think it will be a beautiful drive and a beautiful start of your new life.

justasinger posted 4/19/2014 14:41 PM

I did Oklahoma to PA, Texas to Florida, Arizona to Georgia, Washington (state) to New Jersey, Florida to PA, Oklahoma to Maine, and I'm sure some more that I just don't remember. I used to be Army, so I travelled a lot. Every time I had a permanent change of station (PCS) I moved myself. Much more fun that way, lol. Oh yea, an NYC to Oklahoma (I was supposed to fly, but it was Christmas of 07 and our flight got cancelled so we rented a car and drove...).

stronger08 posted 4/19/2014 19:37 PM

I like to break up long drives by booking hotel rooms depending on the length of the trip. 33 hours is a long haul and you should at least sleep overnight once. Find a place that accepts pets and make sure your trailer is secure. Invest in a good lock for sure. Map it out and make reservations in advance that will save a couple of bucks. Good luck on your NB !!!!!

healingtree posted 4/19/2014 19:56 PM

I am selling everything. Won't have a stick of furniture when I arrive. Moved out here from CA the same way. Donations welcome!

The home I live in was supposed to be a new beginning too, when X and I were working on R. Probably best to get a new start that is about me growing my own life, not just where I got left behind.

Least I will be moving in the summer!

healingtree posted 4/19/2014 20:01 PM

@stronger08 - will definitely be looking for doggie friendly hotels prior to launch! Last think I want to do is sleep on the side of the road with my pooches crawling all over me. Poor things won't know what the heck is going on.

@justasinger - Washington state to New Jersey - now that is a haul! Thought of going to Cali, pick up the kiddos and drive, but I think that would be pushing it.

norabird posted 4/19/2014 22:32 PM

What a sense of accomplishment you will feel once successfully completing this drive!

healingtree posted 4/20/2014 14:18 PM

An entire shift in BEing.

hexed posted 4/20/2014 17:55 PM

((HT))

How exciting!! I am regular taker of long drives and multi-day road trips. Its my therapy. I dropped out of college and drove from Seattle to West Palm Beach florida when I was 18 and that started my love affair with the road :-)

A lot of hotels are pet friendly now. You shouldn't have too much trouble. *tip* - try for a first floor room with dogs. It makes potty breaks easier.

I've driven 1000 miles in one stretch....waaaaaaaay too much. 500 miles is usually an easy 8 hours with dogs. Try and stop and enjoy if you have time. Can I come visit? Maine is my 50th state...still waiting for a reason and opportunity

I've loved purging almost everything from dishes to furniture from my M. Very cathartic. I love that he's never lived in my city or this house. Its so fresh and such a clean new life.

Best wishes! Bon Voyage!

justasinger posted 4/20/2014 23:55 PM

That drive was a long time ago. Did the drive only stopping for food and fuel. Pretty sure a drunk driver would have had a quicker reaction time than I did by the time I got there.

Sad in AZ posted 4/21/2014 23:22 PM

I moved myself from Phoenix to Houston (approx 1000 miles) and then from Houston to Albany, NY. (approx 1500 miles) Both times I drove by myself--no pets or people.

The trip to Houston took 3 driving days. I spent some time in Las Cruces, NM, and one night in Kerrville, TX. The trip to Albany took 6 driving days--lots of friends and family along the way .

If you plan carefully, it's a piece of cake.

EvenKeel posted 4/22/2014 07:24 AM

I bet it is a great feeling knowing you are 'going home'.

I have done long-distance trips (solo) and try to break it up into 10 hour driving days. This allows for time in the evening to move about, stretch and do a little bit of site-seeing. Versus getting to the hotel room and dropping into bed zombie style. Especially if you are taking dogs, this will allow time in the evening for some activity for them as well.

My mom travels with a smaller dog and is pretty successful with finding places to stay. Like others said....just pre-book it so you are not exhausted trying to find a place. I did that one year - no hotel reservations. The plan was to just find a place when I was tired. BAD plan....every place was booked, etc.

Congrats!

healingtree posted 4/27/2014 17:33 PM

Thanks for all the encouraging responses. Right now I am looking at all the stuff I have in my house, and thinking how the heck am I going to get rid of it, let it go, sell it, whatever. I am not a hoarder lol but this is really going to be a challenging process to say the least. I thought this place was going to be my home, but its not. Tired of being homeless.

jjsr posted 4/27/2014 20:06 PM

LaQuinta Hotels are pet friendly and are all over and pretty good prices too.

cayc posted 4/27/2014 20:11 PM

I second the LaQuinta suggestion. That's how I did my last cross country move. I actually planned out the drive in advance by breaking the mileage up, and then booked the hotels so that each day had a driving goal and my place for me and my dog to stay was assured.

(Oddly though, what's up with hotel prices in Midland and Odessa TX? Crazy expensive!)

homewrecked2011 posted 4/27/2014 20:39 PM

I should have moved after the D. I so could use the back up of family support and not be out in a state far from my family,, as XWH and OW are trying to turn my children against me and my XWH goes to very few of the kids events. (Now one is a rising senior, so we're not leaving).

That said, it will be so wonderful to have a new beginning.. and be around your family and friends.

Good luck!!

PurpleRose posted 4/27/2014 21:44 PM

I drive from TX to CA every summer - just me, the kids, and the dogs! One summer I drove TX to CA, then back to TX, then to FL and back home to TX! What a fun summer that was!

Last one as a family before Dday.

I always book my hotel before I leave so I know where I am headed. LaQuinta has been great with the dogs and kids. Good luck and enjoy the ride!

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