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25yearslater (original poster member #32806) posted at 2:45 AM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
I posted earlier that WH wanted to spend Easter as "a family - we are adults...". I said no. He picked Saturday snd I have Sunday. DD (19 years old and home from college) would NOT spend time with WH on Friday and refused today too. She is mad. DS (17 years old) isn't talking to him much either. WH has been moping around the house doing yard work. He made a comment about "I might as well go to the townhouse since no one is talking to me". I am not sure of what part of him not wanting to be married he is not getting. 
me: 52 yrs old BW
him: 53 yrs old WH
Together: 35 years
Married: 30 years (?)
Divorced: 2/26/2016
DDay: November 2010
DDay #2: July 30, 2011
DDay #3: 11/26/11 (2nd OW)
DDay+++
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 3:21 AM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
Actions, meet consequences.
Good job on standing your ground.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
shiloe ( member #1224) posted at 3:23 AM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
Poor baby . . . better get a move on to the townhouse then, don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.
But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 58 Dday 03/2011
Cheater -58 Married 26 yrs
DD - 23 DD -21 DS-19
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA- new MCOW D-2/17
betrayedidiot ( member #42868) posted at 3:29 AM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
I know right? They don't get it! WH asked if he could come to church with me. What on earth?! I'm out of town, so at least there was no need to discuss. I hope he will find another church entirely since we are separated and told him so.
Me: BS
Married almost 20 years
2 year EA and 1 month PA
DD-16
D-Day: 01/14/14
Separated and divorcing
Caretaker1 ( member #42777) posted at 4:30 AM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
If they are trying to be nice and reconcile...your choice to try or not. Divorce has tremendous ripple effects.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 4:49 AM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
Ah, yet another solo performance to the worlds smallest violin by a WS. 
25yearslater (original poster member #32806) posted at 4:50 AM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
Caretaker1 - he is not trying to be nice and reconcil. I thought we were reconciling but I was wrong. He "was not happy but wants to remain best friends".
Thanks all for the words of encouragement! I'm not the best at putting my needs first but am learning.
[This message edited by 25yearslater at 10:50 PM, April 19th (Saturday)]
me: 52 yrs old BW
him: 53 yrs old WH
Together: 35 years
Married: 30 years (?)
Divorced: 2/26/2016
DDay: November 2010
DDay #2: July 30, 2011
DDay #3: 11/26/11 (2nd OW)
DDay+++
one2ndchance ( member #14759) posted at 6:41 AM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
He "was not happy but wants to remain best friends".
Yeah, mine is the same way. That way they can keep the niceties of family while maintaining their freedom to date other women.
The selfishness never ends.
Married 26 years
DDay #1 2/2002
DDay #2 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/9/2014
It's hard to see the road ahead if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.
stronger08 ( member #16953) posted at 9:44 AM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
Friends do not lie, deceive and manipulate others. He is not your friend and you must allow him to stew in the soup of infidelity he himself has created. Too fucking bad that his piss poor decisions come with consequences. Should have thought about hat before he pulled his dick out of his pants. 
You cant eat soup with chopsticks.
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