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25yearslater posted 4/19/2014 20:45 PM

I posted earlier that WH wanted to spend Easter as "a family - we are adults...". I said no. He picked Saturday snd I have Sunday. DD (19 years old and home from college) would NOT spend time with WH on Friday and refused today too. She is mad. DS (17 years old) isn't talking to him much either. WH has been moping around the house doing yard work. He made a comment about "I might as well go to the townhouse since no one is talking to me". I am not sure of what part of him not wanting to be married he is not getting.

Williesmom posted 4/19/2014 21:21 PM

Actions, meet consequences.

Good job on standing your ground.

shiloe posted 4/19/2014 21:23 PM

Poor baby . . . better get a move on to the townhouse then, don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.

betrayedidiot posted 4/19/2014 21:29 PM

I know right? They don't get it! WH asked if he could come to church with me. What on earth?! I'm out of town, so at least there was no need to discuss. I hope he will find another church entirely since we are separated and told him so.

Caretaker1 posted 4/19/2014 22:30 PM

If they are trying to be nice and reconcile...your choice to try or not. Divorce has tremendous ripple effects.

norabird posted 4/19/2014 22:49 PM

Ah, yet another solo performance to the worlds smallest violin by a WS.

25yearslater posted 4/19/2014 22:50 PM

Caretaker1 - he is not trying to be nice and reconcil. I thought we were reconciling but I was wrong. He "was not happy but wants to remain best friends".

Thanks all for the words of encouragement! I'm not the best at putting my needs first but am learning.

[This message edited by 25yearslater at 10:50 PM, April 19th (Saturday)]

one2ndchance posted 4/20/2014 00:41 AM

He "was not happy but wants to remain best friends".

Yeah, mine is the same way. That way they can keep the niceties of family while maintaining their freedom to date other women.

The selfishness never ends.

stronger08 posted 4/20/2014 03:44 AM

Friends do not lie, deceive and manipulate others. He is not your friend and you must allow him to stew in the soup of infidelity he himself has created. Too fucking bad that his piss poor decisions come with consequences. Should have thought about hat before he pulled his dick out of his pants.