We have followed your "episode of Jerry Springer" chapter of your life from the beginning. http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=519182
In 3 short months, from DDay Jan 10th to tomorrow April 21st at 10 AM, your divorce will be final and it's time to change the channel. At the beginning of that episode you were feeling every negative emotion you could feel thanks to walking in on a double betrayal of your best friend and husband. You had no one to talk to and you were spurned by your family when you tried to reach out to them for help. You were never even given an option for R. All the while fighting to remain calm in front of your heartbroken children. In your thread you appeared to be strong and you are monumentally strong which has inspired me in my own story. Watching you to continue to move forward at a rapid pace was awe inspiring for several of us. But I also know how deep your wounds run, that you are still on the roller coaster and don't always feel strong. We have watched you get up off the floor and regain your life. From taking control of your company back from your xH, to being strong for your kids, to making new friends and getting your story out.
You may have come to SI alone, but I wanted you to know that as I write this right now, there are 43169 people who stand with you now. Tomorrow know that when your divorce becomes final.
No matter what your feelings are, from mourning to celebrating, that they are validated feelings. I'm fairly certain I can speak for many when I say, know that we at SI stand with you and will always stand with you. Today, tomorrow, the future. We see a bright future ahead for you. We hope to see more positive from you in your future at anything you do.
One last piece of advice for you as you close this chapter of your life leading into the next. You have been through an awful lot in you life. Always protect your heart, but don't let the bad people make you so jaded that you close out the good people. There definitely are some good ones out there in the world you know.
From my family to yours, wishing you all the best, yop
Please feel free to add your well wishes for blind on her venture forth in the next chapter of her life.
wishing you all the best tomorrow!
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Continue to take the high road, for your self, your children but also because wayward spouses try to change us into screaming wives because then they justify that they HAD to leave because we were screaming wives.
me BS 52 him - 46 married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12 children - ds15 ds12 d-day 12-19-11 I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day Divorce filed
Our D days were so close.. And I have followed your story throughout.. I have t commented, as truthfully I have never known what to say.
To see the shift in attitude and mindset over the past few months is inspiring :)
Thinking of you tomorrow....
Not many could deal with the hand you were dealt with as much strength and grit and ultimately grace as you have. The main battle is over now. You have made it. And you have many better things ahead awaiting you. Congratulations, and condolences too; sending many best wishes with both.
I really could not have done so well without you all and I will forever be grateful for your support. Those that do know my story no all too well how I literally had no one to turn to. I remember in the beginning clicking refresh on my computer constantly grasping for someone to help me.
You all SAVED me!
I know tomorrow will be tough and I know I will be on SI soon after my court appearance.
I hope that one day I can help someone as much as you all have helped me.
I know every story is different and we all have so much pain we are working with ourselves yet people keep putting their own pain aside to try to help others. That is so beautiful!
Words simply cannot express my gratitude!
BS: me 42 WH: 48 2 kids Married 18 years D-day - 1/11/14 Filed - 1/16/14 Divorced 4/21/14 Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched
D-Day, June 10, 2012
(((((Hugs)))))
you are an inspiration to many of us, me included.
from 09/11 - 05/13 2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R. 01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA. 01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys. 01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys
You will be fine.
You got this.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Sobbed uncontrollably after court for about 10 minutes. Did not expect that reaction. XH did not see. Waited until I drove a few miles then pulled over.
It's a good thing XH got a new job last week because judge wanted us to divide company. Since he had a new job there was now no need.
Thankful my house, my business, our vacation home and most of the accounts are now mine. Parenting plan and child support are now firmly defined.
I have a bottle of Dom Perignon I have been chilling for this day but don't really feel like celebrating right at this moment. Gonna go later and get a massage and facial.
Thanks again for being there for me. You are great peeps and I am so lucky to have found you!
[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 11:52 AM, April 21st (Monday)]
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“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” ― Pema Chödrön
