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yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 3:51 PM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
Hi iamnolongerblind42,
We have followed your "episode of Jerry Springer" chapter of your life from the beginning.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=519182
In 3 short months, from DDay Jan 10th to tomorrow April 21st at 10 AM, your divorce will be final and it's time to change the channel. At the beginning of that episode you were feeling every negative emotion you could feel thanks to walking in on a double betrayal of your best friend and husband. You had no one to talk to and you were spurned by your family when you tried to reach out to them for help. You were never even given an option for R. All the while fighting to remain calm in front of your heartbroken children. In your thread you appeared to be strong and you are monumentally strong which has inspired me in my own story. Watching you to continue to move forward at a rapid pace was awe inspiring for several of us. But I also know how deep your wounds run, that you are still on the roller coaster and don't always feel strong. We have watched you get up off the floor and regain your life. From taking control of your company back from your xH, to being strong for your kids, to making new friends and getting your story out.
You may have come to SI alone, but I wanted you to know that as I write this right now, there are 43169 people who stand with you now. Tomorrow know that when your divorce becomes final.
No matter what your feelings are, from mourning to celebrating, that they are validated feelings. I'm fairly certain I can speak for many when I say, know that we at SI stand with you and will always stand with you. Today, tomorrow, the future. We see a bright future ahead for you. We hope to see more positive from you in your future at anything you do.
One last piece of advice for you as you close this chapter of your life leading into the next. You have been through an awful lot in you life. Always protect your heart, but don't let the bad people make you so jaded that you close out the good people. There definitely are some good ones out there in the world you know.
From my family to yours, wishing you all the best,
yop
Please feel free to add your well wishes for blind on her venture forth in the next chapter of her life.
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 3:55 PM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
Good luck tomorrow. Allow yourself the time and space you need to heal and process all of it. The SI family is large and wonderful. SI new beginnings is a great place to continue your journey.
wishing you all the best tomorrow!
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 4:05 PM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
Hoping for peace and calm for you tomorrow and always.
Continue to take the high road, for your self, your children but also because wayward spouses try to
change us into screaming wives because then they justify that they HAD to leave because we were screaming wives.
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
Sadmumma ( member #42192) posted at 4:30 PM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
'No longer' blind.....
Our D days were so close.. And I have followed your story throughout.. I have t commented, as truthfully I have never known what to say.
To see the shift in attitude and mindset over the past few months is inspiring :)
Thinking of you tomorrow....
On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014
StillStanding1 ( member #40144) posted at 5:04 PM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
Stay strong, blind!!! You have been an inspiration to many of us. You have shown amazing courage and clarity during the most awful of circumstances. I am celebrating that you can move forward now, as I know you will, to happier days. I wish you all the resolve you need, strength you can muster, and happiness you deserve. I'm sure tomorrow will bring a mixed bag of emotions. Totally expected. Hard to close a chapter on your life that has had profound effects on your whole family. But I am equally sure that the load will get lighter with time. You have a good life to look forward to!!!!! Peace to you.
Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:41 PM on Sunday, April 20th, 2014
((((Iamsoblind))))
Not many could deal with the hand you were dealt with as much strength and grit and ultimately grace as you have. The main battle is over now. You have made it. And you have many better things ahead awaiting you. Congratulations, and condolences too; sending many best wishes with both.
iamsoblind42 ( member #42022) posted at 1:55 AM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Wow, I am overwhelmed! I have not cried in weeks but am bawling my eyes out as I type this but not from sadness. The outpouring of love from complete strangers is truly amazing! I feel truly blessed.
I really could not have done so well without you all and I will forever be grateful for your support. Those that do know my story no all too well how I literally had no one to turn to. I remember in the beginning clicking refresh on my computer constantly grasping for someone to help me.
You all SAVED me!
I know tomorrow will be tough and I know I will be on SI soon after my court appearance.
I hope that one day I can help someone as much as you all have helped me.
I know every story is different and we all have so much pain we are working with ourselves yet people keep putting their own pain aside to try to help others. That is so beautiful!
Words simply cannot express my gratitude!
I'm a survivor, I'm gonna make it, I will survive, keep on surviving...
BS: me 44 (then 42)
WH: 50 (then 48)
2 kids
Married 18 years
D-day - 1/11/14
Filed - 1/16/14
Divorced 4/21/14
Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 3:24 AM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Whoot! Whoot! I'm going to be raising a glass of wine to you tomorrow, you strong woman you!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Violated ( member #21239) posted at 5:47 AM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Hugs and strength
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 5:52 AM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
You've got this. And we've got you.
(((((Hugs)))))
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
william ( member #41986) posted at 10:13 AM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
as crazy as it sounds, watching you navigate your voyage has been an inspiration for me. although you might not feel it so, ive watched as you have risen to every challenge and through great difficulty pass through. seeing your journey towards healing has given me hope for mine.
you are an inspiration to many of us, me included.
me - bh
her - lara01
from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys
Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 11:11 AM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Thinking of you this morning...(((blind42)))
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 11:53 AM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Thinking of you today.
You will be fine.
You got this.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 11:55 AM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Good luck today blind! We are with you!
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 1:09 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
We all have your back! You are so strong
iamsoblind42 ( member #42022) posted at 5:42 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
It's done. I am divorced. Held it together through court while heart wanted to beat out of my chest.
Sobbed uncontrollably after court for about 10 minutes. Did not expect that reaction. XH did not see. Waited until I drove a few miles then pulled over.
It's a good thing XH got a new job last week because judge wanted us to divide company. Since he had a new job there was now no need.
Thankful my house, my business, our vacation home and most of the accounts are now mine. Parenting plan and child support are now firmly defined.
I have a bottle of Dom Perignon I have been chilling for this day but don't really feel like celebrating right at this moment. Gonna go later and get a massage and facial.
Thanks again for being there for me. You are great peeps and I am so lucky to have found you!
[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 11:52 AM, April 21st (Monday)]
I'm a survivor, I'm gonna make it, I will survive, keep on surviving...
BS: me 44 (then 42)
WH: 50 (then 48)
2 kids
Married 18 years
D-day - 1/11/14
Filed - 1/16/14
Divorced 4/21/14
Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched
yearsofpain25 (original poster member #42012) posted at 5:45 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
No words today. Just....
((((((((((iamsoblind42))))))))))
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
MadeOfScars ( member #42231) posted at 7:48 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
"Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t." - Steve Maraboli
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:21 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
((((((imsoblind))))))) A massage sounds like just the ticket, honey. One day, I'm guessing fairly soon, you will feel like popping the cork on that bottle. For today, just take care of yourself and allow the feelings to come. Tomorrow? Well, that's your new beginning, honey. When you're ready to think about what's next (whatever that may be) come on down to NB.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
RippedSoul ( member #40055) posted at 10:35 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Best wishes for a wonderful future! You will live this next chapter as graciously and determinedly as the last one. Hugs!
BW: 55; SLAWH: 52; M: 28 yrs
DD#1--11/30/12 (prostitute 1)
DD#2--1/29/13 (WH confessed: P1, AP, escorts 1 & 2)
DD#3--9/13 (trolling MILF site)
DD#4--10/8/13 (EA with AP cont'd)
DD: 26; DD: 24; DS: 22; DS: 20
I've never NOT edited my posts.
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