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yearsofpain25 posted 4/20/2014 09:51 AM

Hi iamnolongerblind42,

We have followed your "episode of Jerry Springer" chapter of your life from the beginning.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=519182

In 3 short months, from DDay Jan 10th to tomorrow April 21st at 10 AM, your divorce will be final and it's time to change the channel. At the beginning of that episode you were feeling every negative emotion you could feel thanks to walking in on a double betrayal of your best friend and husband. You had no one to talk to and you were spurned by your family when you tried to reach out to them for help. You were never even given an option for R. All the while fighting to remain calm in front of your heartbroken children. In your thread you appeared to be strong and you are monumentally strong which has inspired me in my own story. Watching you to continue to move forward at a rapid pace was awe inspiring for several of us. But I also know how deep your wounds run, that you are still on the roller coaster and don't always feel strong. We have watched you get up off the floor and regain your life. From taking control of your company back from your xH, to being strong for your kids, to making new friends and getting your story out.

You may have come to SI alone, but I wanted you to know that as I write this right now, there are 43169 people who stand with you now. Tomorrow know that when your divorce becomes final.

No matter what your feelings are, from mourning to celebrating, that they are validated feelings. I'm fairly certain I can speak for many when I say, know that we at SI stand with you and will always stand with you. Today, tomorrow, the future. We see a bright future ahead for you. We hope to see more positive from you in your future at anything you do.

One last piece of advice for you as you close this chapter of your life leading into the next. You have been through an awful lot in you life. Always protect your heart, but don't let the bad people make you so jaded that you close out the good people. There definitely are some good ones out there in the world you know.

From my family to yours, wishing you all the best,
yop

Please feel free to add your well wishes for blind on her venture forth in the next chapter of her life.

hexed posted 4/20/2014 09:55 AM

Good luck tomorrow. Allow yourself the time and space you need to heal and process all of it. The SI family is large and wonderful. SI new beginnings is a great place to continue your journey.

wishing you all the best tomorrow!

homewrecked2011 posted 4/20/2014 10:05 AM

Hoping for peace and calm for you tomorrow and always.

Continue to take the high road, for your self, your children but also because wayward spouses try to
change us into screaming wives because then they justify that they HAD to leave because we were screaming wives.

Sadmumma posted 4/20/2014 10:30 AM

'No longer' blind.....

Our D days were so close.. And I have followed your story throughout.. I have t commented, as truthfully I have never known what to say.

To see the shift in attitude and mindset over the past few months is inspiring :)

Thinking of you tomorrow....

StillStanding1 posted 4/20/2014 11:04 AM

Stay strong, blind!!! You have been an inspiration to many of us. You have shown amazing courage and clarity during the most awful of circumstances. I am celebrating that you can move forward now, as I know you will, to happier days. I wish you all the resolve you need, strength you can muster, and happiness you deserve. I'm sure tomorrow will bring a mixed bag of emotions. Totally expected. Hard to close a chapter on your life that has had profound effects on your whole family. But I am equally sure that the load will get lighter with time. You have a good life to look forward to!!!!! Peace to you.

norabird posted 4/20/2014 11:41 AM

((((Iamsoblind))))

Not many could deal with the hand you were dealt with as much strength and grit and ultimately grace as you have. The main battle is over now. You have made it. And you have many better things ahead awaiting you. Congratulations, and condolences too; sending many best wishes with both.

iamsoblind42 posted 4/20/2014 19:55 PM

Wow, I am overwhelmed! I have not cried in weeks but am bawling my eyes out as I type this but not from sadness. The outpouring of love from complete strangers is truly amazing! I feel truly blessed.

I really could not have done so well without you all and I will forever be grateful for your support. Those that do know my story no all too well how I literally had no one to turn to. I remember in the beginning clicking refresh on my computer constantly grasping for someone to help me.

You all SAVED me!

I know tomorrow will be tough and I know I will be on SI soon after my court appearance.

I hope that one day I can help someone as much as you all have helped me.

I know every story is different and we all have so much pain we are working with ourselves yet people keep putting their own pain aside to try to help others. That is so beautiful!

Words simply cannot express my gratitude!

Skan posted 4/20/2014 21:24 PM

Whoot! Whoot! I'm going to be raising a glass of wine to you tomorrow, you strong woman you!

Violated posted 4/20/2014 23:47 PM

Hugs and strength

CheaterMagnet posted 4/20/2014 23:52 PM

You've got this. And we've got you.

(((((Hugs)))))

william posted 4/21/2014 04:13 AM

as crazy as it sounds, watching you navigate your voyage has been an inspiration for me. although you might not feel it so, ive watched as you have risen to every challenge and through great difficulty pass through. seeing your journey towards healing has given me hope for mine.

you are an inspiration to many of us, me included.

Tripletrouble posted 4/21/2014 05:11 AM

Thinking of you this morning...(((blind42)))

confused615 posted 4/21/2014 05:53 AM

Thinking of you today.

You will be fine.

You got this.

yearsofpain25 posted 4/21/2014 05:55 AM

Good luck today blind! We are with you!

risingfromashes posted 4/21/2014 07:09 AM

We all have your back! You are so strong

iamsoblind42 posted 4/21/2014 11:42 AM

It's done. I am divorced. Held it together through court while heart wanted to beat out of my chest.

Sobbed uncontrollably after court for about 10 minutes. Did not expect that reaction. XH did not see. Waited until I drove a few miles then pulled over.

It's a good thing XH got a new job last week because judge wanted us to divide company. Since he had a new job there was now no need.

Thankful my house, my business, our vacation home and most of the accounts are now mine. Parenting plan and child support are now firmly defined.

I have a bottle of Dom Perignon I have been chilling for this day but don't really feel like celebrating right at this moment. Gonna go later and get a massage and facial.

Thanks again for being there for me. You are great peeps and I am so lucky to have found you!

[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 11:52 AM, April 21st (Monday)]

yearsofpain25 posted 4/21/2014 11:45 AM

No words today. Just....

((((((((((iamsoblind42))))))))))

MadeOfScars posted 4/21/2014 13:48 PM

((((iamsoblind42))))

nowiknow23 posted 4/21/2014 16:21 PM

((((((imsoblind))))))) A massage sounds like just the ticket, honey. One day, I'm guessing fairly soon, you will feel like popping the cork on that bottle. For today, just take care of yourself and allow the feelings to come. Tomorrow? Well, that's your new beginning, honey. When you're ready to think about what's next (whatever that may be) come on down to NB.

RippedSoul posted 4/21/2014 16:35 PM

Best wishes for a wonderful future! You will live this next chapter as graciously and determinedly as the last one. Hugs!