Long again for details...but basically STBX would rather forfeit his rare visitation than give me $10. But really...I think his motive was to mess up plans he "thought" I had. Now he keeps texting me...
(I have sole physical custody & a PO against this NPD who is escalating.)
So STBX flaked out on the Saturday to Monday Easter visitation he so desperately wanted that he gave me less than a weeks notice for and I made a special exception to allow. Saturday morning he actually tried to deny that I agreed to the visitation until I cut & pasted the text I sent him days ago stating such.
Per the custody agreement we are to meet halfway for the exchange...the church works for us. But he said he couldnt meet there..his scooter had a flat (it had a flat last week too...for the scout meeting). He wanted me to drive DS11 to his house. (Why does he keep wanting me to go to his house)? But ok. I will drop at his door. For $10 (drop off & pick up). Note: STBX is NOT paying the CS he agreed to, nor has he ever given me gas $ for all the times I have brought DS11 to him, to school, doctor etc. Well STBX refused! He thinks he is entitled to special favors by me and there is "no way he is paying me $10 which I will use on beer". WTF. So I suggested hiring a local car service guy. Or borrowing a car from a friend (mind you...he borrowed 2 cars from 2 friends for months at a time). Nope. He wont do either.
Finally, after 4.5 hours of his harrassing, guilt-trip texts which were flooded with his comments on how I would be missing out on my big out-of-town plans if DS11 didnt go to his place (what plans?) I gave him 15 minutes to figure something out or I would consider that he forfeited Easter visitation. When time was up I texted "I am sorry you chose not to work something out for Easter visitation. I will watch for your next visitation request with minimum 1 weeks notice". Then crickets on my part.
Of course he kept texting:
HIM: " Sorry that you couldn't keep your plans and feel the need.to keep DS11.away from his dad."
HIM: " Thanks for the false alarm. You are so considerate."
HIM: "It's obvious to me now that you really just want to look like you offered to let DS11 visit. You never had any intention to bring him."
I didnt respond...then I get this starting at noon today....
HIM: " You know... I do have something for DS11 for Easter... How can I make sure he gets it? Will you cooperate with me here?"
..3 hours later...
HIM: " I guess the answer is one of two things... We left town and you aren't allowed to give DS11 an Easter basket... Or, I'm mad at you because I didn't want to drive a few extra blocks to drop him off at your place and DS11 is the one that suffers. When can I get him his Easter basket?"
...another 2 hours later...
HIM: "For what its worth, Happy Easter to you too".
He must have forgotten texting this to me last night:
HIM: " I'll just deliver his Easter basket to the school."
1) I'm not required to do favors for him like driving DS11 to his door just because he wants me to, am I? The custody papers say meet halfway. Even if it is just 2 miles? Should I have? I mean...it wasnt worth $10 to see his son? (ie: he wld rather me not get $10 then see his son)
2) Do I reply to his Text wanting to give DS11 Easter basket? If so...how?
(I want to say: "You already texted this regarding the Easter basket" & then cut & paste his text about dropping it at school. Or perhaps he should keep it until his next visitation. Or mail it. He already txtd DS11 directly saying the Easter bunny had dropped something at his place for him. Geez. )
3) I can tell my direct, sparce, no drama replies are bugging him. I am trying to NC.
For the record:
All his texts were nasty or ridiculous or about my plans and how its my fault if he doesnt see DS11. Texts like: "Why do you capitalize off of people that have no transportation? Does that make you feel like a better citizen?". (We shared the car until he needed cash & I felt sorry for him so I bought out his interest in it for cash-back before he quit paying support 6 months ago). And at least a dozen texts about my "plans" followed by "I dont care about your plans". LoL.
[This message edited by btrayedbyhim at 3:58 PM, April 20th (Sunday)]