Sounds like you still need to find your voice.
It is not OK for you to just sit silently, and accept whatever vomit she spews in your general direction. If she is starting to see what she has done, and is looking for direction you have to give it. She's not a mind reader, no WS is, and honestly when they are foggy for a while, they are a bit (ok a lot) emotionally retarded.
Sometimes they need a road map, and detailed list.
Find your voice, it will give you strength.