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Alyssamd24 posted 4/21/2014 10:09 AM

Today is my daughters fifth birthday...we woke up as a family this morning, as my daughter exclaimed over the decorations I hung up last night after she went to bed. She opened her presents with me and BH watching, and soon she and I will go out for the day to go shopping and to chucke cheese.

Its so different from last year...even though last year we spent the day together as a family; it was strained because BH and I were seperated, and though I had said I was trying to R I was still very much involved in my A with XAP.

I am so grateful and fortunate to be able to spend this day with my family, truly trying to R with my BH and become a better person.

grains posted 4/21/2014 10:13 AM

That's wonderful. Keep up the work of recovery and reconciliation.

brokeback posted 4/21/2014 10:14 AM

Dear Alyssamd24,

Your story gives me hope. Thank you for sharing.

I very much look forward to posting the difference a year makes. Seems like you and I were going through a similar painful path around the same time.

I'm happy to hear your good fortune. I understand your gratitude. I have so much of my own to hold on to and keep sight of.

Enjoy your day and happy 5th birth day to your little girl.

[This message edited by brokeback at 10:15 AM, April 21st (Monday)]

harrypotter posted 4/21/2014 11:01 AM

That is great news and happy birthday to your little girl. A year does make a big difference, but at the time things seem to go so slow. It's nice to be able to look back and see some gains for me and if I can speak for my BS, see some progress. It gives hope that, that place, we don't have to stay stuck there or here even for that matter. Healing does happen! Enjoy your day!

BrokenButTrying posted 4/21/2014 11:12 AM

That's great, well done on the wonderful progress!

Happy Birthday to your daughter :)

Alyssamd24 posted 4/21/2014 17:09 PM

Thank you everyone!! My DD has had a fantastic birthday!!! I cannot believe I have a five year old!!!

BH and I still have a lot of work to do....things definitely aren't perfect....but at least we are both committed to make it work now.

It still makes me so embarrassed and ashamed when I think of how long I lied....at least now I can say I am being honest....thats a start right?

Aubrie posted 4/21/2014 17:15 PM

Keep up the good work Alyssa.

mrs7 posted 4/21/2014 19:58 PM

Yep, you're right - honesty is a start - a GOOD start - the one that will make all the difference!!

Your little girl will now have a shot at having parents who are happy together - and that's saying a lot.