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Alyssamd24 (original poster member #39005) posted at 4:09 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Today is my daughters fifth birthday...we woke up as a family this morning, as my daughter exclaimed over the decorations I hung up last night after she went to bed. She opened her presents with me and BH watching, and soon she and I will go out for the day to go shopping and to chucke cheese.
Its so different from last year...even though last year we spent the day together as a family; it was strained because BH and I were seperated, and though I had said I was trying to R I was still very much involved in my A with XAP.
I am so grateful and fortunate to be able to spend this day with my family, truly trying to R with my BH and become a better person.
Sometimes the worst thing that happens to you.....the thing you think you can't survive....its the thing that makes you better than you used to be.
grains ( member #32590) posted at 4:13 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
That's wonderful. Keep up the work of recovery and reconciliation.
WH 63
BS 52
No Children
Together 17 years
Married 7/21/2001
D-day#1 03/01/2011
D-day#2 7/8/2015
D-day#3 9/3/2015
brokeback ( member #41726) posted at 4:14 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Dear Alyssamd24,
Your story gives me hope. Thank you for sharing.
I very much look forward to posting the difference a year makes. Seems like you and I were going through a similar painful path around the same time.
I'm happy to hear your good fortune. I understand your gratitude. I have so much of my own to hold on to and keep sight of.
Enjoy your day and happy 5th birth day to your little girl. 
[This message edited by brokeback at 10:15 AM, April 21st (Monday)]
ME 43
BS 38
1 Child 3 years old
Married 18 years
DDay - 10/2013. EA 9 months. PA 4 months. Ended the affair 11/2014
harrypotter ( member #39526) posted at 5:01 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
That is great news and happy birthday to your little girl. A year does make a big difference, but at the time things seem to go so slow. It's nice to be able to look back and see some gains for me and if I can speak for my BS, see some progress. It gives hope that, that place, we don't have to stay stuck there or here even for that matter. Healing does happen! Enjoy your day!
WS-Me
BS-Her (Lostinthismess)
BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 5:12 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
That's great, well done on the wonderful progress!
Happy Birthday to your daughter :)
Madhatters - We have R'd.
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.
Alyssamd24 (original poster member #39005) posted at 11:09 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Thank you everyone!! My DD has had a fantastic birthday!!! I cannot believe I have a five year old!!!
BH and I still have a lot of work to do....things definitely aren't perfect....but at least we are both committed to make it work now.
It still makes me so embarrassed and ashamed when I think of how long I lied....at least now I can say I am being honest....thats a start right?
Sometimes the worst thing that happens to you.....the thing you think you can't survive....its the thing that makes you better than you used to be.
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 11:15 PM on Monday, April 21st, 2014
Keep up the good work Alyssa.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
mrs7 ( new member #42505) posted at 1:58 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Yep, you're right - honesty is a start - a GOOD start - the one that will make all the difference!!
Your little girl will now have a shot at having parents who are happy together - and that's saying a lot.
Me -WW - 49
Him -BH -45
DD - 1-21-14
no children together
M - 3 1/2 years, together 7
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