"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

freeatlast72 posted 4/21/2014 16:53 PM

Tomorrow is the big day...we will have both attorneys there and a mediator who will help us both to come to an agreement regarding custody, spousal support, child support, etc...

So ready to move forward!!

Chrysalis123 posted 4/21/2014 17:00 PM

Fingers crossed for you!

Tripletrouble posted 4/21/2014 18:58 PM

It IS a big day. Eat something yummy for breakfast and take some deep breaths. It will all be a memory soon!

courageous posted 4/23/2014 19:04 PM

So how did it go? Was a settlement agreed upon or are you going to court?

copout posted 4/23/2014 19:26 PM

Hope it went well!

freeatlast72 posted 4/24/2014 07:59 AM

It went as well as to be expected after 10.5 hours!!

I received full physical custody for DD6- he has "parenting" time EOW and one dinner visit per week...mainly during the school year. He did not even fight me for this one. Of course we have joing legal custody. Although he was a shit of a husband, he really is a good Dad.

During the summers we alternate weeks, etc.

I received alimony for 7 years on a step down schedule.

We will be listing the house soon.

At the end we almost did not come to an agreement regarding the alimony numbers, but he finally agreed.

I am so happy this is behind me! Today was supposed to be our 15th wedding anniversary, oh well, I am keeping myself busy and meeting up with girlfriends later.

[This message edited by freeatlast72 at 8:01 AM, April 24th (Thursday)]

7yrsflushed posted 4/24/2014 08:12 AM

Today was supposed to be our 15th wedding anniversary,

Give it some time, you will soon remember it as the day you took soem major steps towards freedom and your new life. I am glad the mediation went well and is behind you now.

Dawn58 posted 4/24/2014 09:24 AM

Freeatlast72,

My mediation was Monday, ten hours for me. We did not come to a final agreement but my attorney says it may be wrapped up this week.

No kids in my marriage. He gets to keep his house, the house I live in has to be sold because he does not have the cash to pay me out.

Did you have to see your STBX at the proceedings? I had to, he came into the room I was in to receive the judges instructions regarding confidentiality. I just looked down, I did not want to look at him.

I am ready to put this whole nightmare aside. Still feel like I am in transition though, not quite sure what I am moving forward to.

freeatlast72 posted 4/24/2014 10:41 AM

Dawn58,

I had to see STBXH for 10 minutes while the mediator spoke about the rules and confidentiality. I looked at him for a few seconds but we did not speak.

His attorney was so detail focused and focused in on every little expense....really?? The mediator was with them for hours at a time.

I knew that he did not want to litigate, more $$ for him so I knew we would eventually come to a resolution. My attorney prepared me for the alimony part- and that was the hardest by far. Everything else we agreed on (more or less).

You will move forward-- I am not saying it will be easy but take it one day at a time. We will get through this.