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User Topic: Polygraph: good idea or bad?
♀ 42853
Member # 42853
Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH has been remorseful and very good about most things I ask since dday. He is trying very hard to be the persob he was and the person I thought he was.

He told me details as I asked (definitely trickled but they came out) He swears that I know everything and he's ok with taking a polygraph.

My question to those who have had one done on their WS...did you feel it helped? Did they pass, fail, etc ?

I'd like to hear your stories regarding the ws taking a polygraph. I believe I need this for my own self, but I don't know what I'll do if he fails. I don't think I could handle that. :(

Posts: 262 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Raspberry
♀ 41761
Member # 41761
Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have no words of wisdom, as my WBF did not take a polygraph.

Just bumping this post so hopefully someone will come and give you some good advice!

Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 33
WBF: 30
Together 10 years
1 doggie, 1 Cat
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...Working at it every day.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
♀ 41324
Member # 41324
Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am happy for you that your WS is willing to take a poly. Mine is not unfortunately so I don'y have anything to contribute to your post. I have not worn my ring since he told me this a couple months ago but keep putting off taking the next step.

Married 9 years
ME BS 32
DD 3 years old
DDAY 11-13-12

Posts: 151 | Registered: Nov 2013
♀ 42637
Member # 42637
Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it is a good idea. If it calms your nerves, then it is worth it. If he doesn't pass, then you would want to know that!

Living and learning how to move forward
Me: BGf
Him: WBf
Dday: 02/2013

Posts: 116 | Registered: Mar 2014
♂ 41521
Member # 41521
Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just know that they are not 100% effective. There can be false positives/negatives. I wouldn't take it as the end all be all, but if it would help to give you some relief, go for it!

Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy

Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."

Posts: 1255 | Registered: Dec 2013
♀ 36884
Member # 36884
Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He took one. Administered by a retired law enforcement officer. Showed deception, black & white. He said it was wrong. Looked up "how to beat a polygraph" beforehand. Guess he didn't learn much.

I've heard that you can, if you are good, show false truthfulness, but that if it shows deception, it's much more likely to be accurate. It was in his case, very accurate.

Posts: 145 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: California
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