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User Topic: Evil-est Ever! Stbx just let Everything be auctioned off!!@@
btrayedbyhim
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pure EVIL!!!

STBX just let our storage unit be auctioned off today without telling me squatt! He got calls. He got a certified letter. He knew!!!

This isnt stuff that can be replaced. Its EVERYTHING we left behind when we moved across country with just a trailer of necessities. It was EVERYTHING our kids had from birth until they went to college...yearbooks...photos...gifts...sentimental stufff. When he cheated on me i sold nearly everything in our 3500sf house at fire sale $$. I kept the stuff that meant the most!!! My yearbooks...family photos...the ring DS24 gave me when he was 8 made out of my wedding band...the best gift ever....i was just telling DS11 about it yesterday!! Original art sooo special ive acquired from artist friends. One of a kind things. Stuff from italy. My grandmothers crucifix....the ONLY thing i took after she died. Tens of thousands of $ worth. Linen custom furniture. Things i made from long ago.

And the F-ING SELFISH PRICK could not even call to tell me! Or say it in one of his hundreds of texts!!!! What do i say to the kids??? How evil is this??? For a $577 balance due!!! Irreplaceable! Unforgiveable!

I am devasted. This deadbeat dad who doesnt pay a lick of CS could have more than made the pmts. For 3 years its ME who gave him the $ to pay.

I feel War of the Roses! I want revenge.


As of Dec 2009:
Me: BS46
Him: FWH39 - NPD
Married: 20+ years
Kids: 3
D-Day: 9-28-09
Spent 4 yrs trying. He blew it.
Arrested for DV: 9-6-13
Fuck Him

Posts: 397 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: an island at the beach (aka heaven)
jadedheart
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((btrayed)))

I am so sorry that he is such a selfish jackass. What kind of a monster does this? I would tell your kids exactly what he did. Can you find out who bought the stuff? Maybe you could get back some of the personal items if nothing else.

I am so mad for you right now!


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
4everfaithful83
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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry you are in pain. That really is a dickhead move!

I have purchased some storage units at auction before, and it is a rule that you must return any personal items, ie, yearbooks, passports, that sort of thing. Obviously it is up to the person who buys the unit to be honest and return those items. I hope whoever purchased yours does that for you.

sending you strength tonight.


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Raspberry
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg, my heart just started beating really fast reading this. What a shitty move!!!! I'm so sorry...that's beyond low. :(

Posts: 223 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Raspberry
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a selfish piece of crap. I'm so sorry he let this happen. I would be heartbroken too.

(((bbh)))


Me: BS
2 kids: DD16 and DS19
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7866 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((bbh))))) I'm absolutely sick just thinking about this. I can't even imagine what you must be feeling, honey.

Is there any way to find out who bought the contents?


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26516 | Registered: Aug 2011
btrayedbyhim
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will try tomorrow. Right now xanax & vodka. I have so much hate right now...


As of Dec 2009:
Me: BS46
Him: FWH39 - NPD
Married: 20+ years
Kids: 3
D-Day: 9-28-09
Spent 4 yrs trying. He blew it.
Arrested for DV: 9-6-13
Fuck Him

Posts: 397 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: an island at the beach (aka heaven)
MissMouseMo
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do Not Wait! Contact the storage facility and see if you can find ANYTHING out about the buyer. Implore them. Beg. Put ads in Craigslist under the storage auction heading - anywhere where those sorts of buyers look. Start that now while you have to wait for the office to open tomorrow.

I am very, very attached to "things" so I understand the devastation. I would be ENRAGED. The time to move mountains is NOW.

I am so sorry. That is as if he had set fire to your house. I am beside myself with fury for you.


It is the gut-wrenching, down-to-your-soul honesty that helps so much. ~paraphrased from CancunCrushed
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal

Posts: 390 | Registered: Feb 2013
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Was your name on the storage unit as well? I'm not sure, but could you contact a lawyer to find out of they could even do that without notifying you as well?

I'm so sorry this happened


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Rainbows
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry, I feel your pain and anger, it's just cruel. My ex was willing to let ours go, too.

He had the storage manager call me 15 minutes before the actual auction (it was a Tuesday at 9 a.m.). We stored a lot of our childhood keepsakes and some irreplaceable family heirlooms.

I tried to scramble to come up with all the money and fees to save it within that 15 minutes because they refused to stop the auction unless I did.

Ultimately, a good friend put it on her card with 2 minutes to spare, because I couldn't get to the bank in time. It was horrible. I can't imagine if it had been sold.

I'm so sorry.

Is there any way to track the buyer? I don't know how it works after it's been sold, but maybe see if someone can help you find and buy back some of your things. That would have been my next plan.

Eta: I would have had some legal recourse because when I filed for D, he was not allowed to stop paying any bills. There are automatic restraining orders that go into effect in my state (which is probably why he had them call me since it was considered community property).

(((btrayedbyhim)))

[This message edited by Rainbows at 8:36 PM, April 21st (Monday)]


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 415 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can't you contact the police about that? I'd be on fire with rage.


"You have insulted my footwear."

Posts: 7635 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would be devastated also if I were in your shoes.
Totally wrecked. I would feel hatred that was as hot as the heat of 1000 blazing suns.

I am so sorry and I hope that there is SOME path you can find that allows you to recover your *stuff*.

{{{bbh}}}


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8252 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This makes me.ill, what a cruel asshole. This happened to my best friend too, her kids art projects from kindergarten, birth certificates..everything important. Can you contact the storagemanager and see if they can help. The material valuables prob not but the sentimental things that are only valuable to you. I would give them back if I had them, not everyones a jerk, there are still good ppl out there and just maybe there might be a chance to get your stuff back. Please keep.us posted. I'm so so sorry.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5277 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
nolight
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Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a pathetic excuse for a man, I'm so sorry I can't even begin to imagine what you are feeling.

I agree with ostrich, call the storage place. Hopefully they will be willing to contact the buyers and pass on your situation and contact details. The stuff that means most to you is probably not the sort of thing they will want to keep.


Did she make you cry, make you breakdown and shatter your illusion of love? And is it over now and do you know how to pick up the pieces and go home? - Fleetwood Mac

Posts: 530 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Hawaii
dailyflowers
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Default  Posted: 5:11 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((btrayedbyhim)))))

I'm so angry for you right now I'm having to censor my own thoughts!!! grrrrrrrrrr


hoping that when you call the facility they have the name of the buyer for you, and that those people will have the kind of understanding and empathy that "normal" folks have, as opposed to your x

what an a$$


eesh-- what an 'effing mess!!!

Posts: 504 | Registered: Dec 2011
btrayedbyhim
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Default  Posted: 5:20 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is more evil than him beating me up. This is worse than all the evil things he has done (especially lately....see my D/S posts). And I'm sure that HE will be getting a check for the difference between the $577 owed & what the unit sold for.

The ONLY thing keeping me sane is the thought that so many ppl lose everything in fires & hurricanes. And I have my DS11 whose life I would trade ALL my worldly possessions for.

I just never imagined that the man I loved & supported (I worked...he didnt) for 25 years would not only cheat on me....beat me up....not pay cs etc...but would let this happen without so much as a heads up text!!! He texts me his psycho dribble all day every day.

Hate.


As of Dec 2009:
Me: BS46
Him: FWH39 - NPD
Married: 20+ years
Kids: 3
D-Day: 9-28-09
Spent 4 yrs trying. He blew it.
Arrested for DV: 9-6-13
Fuck Him

Posts: 397 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: an island at the beach (aka heaven)
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 7:21 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

depending on how long ago the auction was, please call them!! They will have record of who it was sold to and if by the grace of god they are good people, at least you could get some things that are not resaleable (like photographs) and possibly even let you buy back your things.

I know i am of different ilk, but if a person called me after I bought an auction like that, I would gladly give away thing things i couldnt sell, and try and work a price for the things that I could sell.

What a shitty dirty bag to do this to you.


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.

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SpecialK
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really am disgusted with his "lack" of action. It just proves how incredibly selfish some people can be.
One thing/question though, if you were the bread winner throughout your marriage and you both obtained the unit while you were married, why would you not make the rent payment yourself? I guess I don't understand why you would make an extra step of giving him the money and trust him to pay... I pray that you get ahold of the buyers and they work with you to get your treasures back.

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a jerk.

I am so sorry this happened to you. I hope you are able to somehow retrieve some of these family treasures of yours.

(((btrayedbyhim)))


Why don't you just say it? I'm the worst toy-maker in the world. I'm a Cotton-Headed Ninnymuggins!

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demos
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The life lesson here is that if something is really important to you then you take care of it yourself.

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