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User Topic: Some hope from wife of WH in foreign country
12yearsloyal
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi, Just wanted to give an update. I am the one who's WS is working/living in a foreign country. He was here Easter weekend and it went really well. I was left with mixed signals all the prior week as to whether he was coming or not. Had not seen him since end of March.

The weekend went quite well in spite of the circumstances. We went to church Sunday and I ran into my counselor after the service. The 3 of us went to breakfast together and it was really a positive step for us.

I took him to the airport today and when he landed he called, choked up and told me he had a really good weekend. IMO he is working his way toward remorse. This is what I need to start healing. I am felling pretty good at the moment. I know there is a lot of work ahead of us to really fix this but for once I have hope that we can fix it.

I needed him to come to the table and I really feel he has come. He sat down, now he needs to pull his chair in tight. The menu will be laid out with our counseling and our faith. I am cautiously optimistic that we can work through this. I have had a breakthrough. Thank you God.


Him: WS, 51 LTA/EA/PA(he says 1 yr, evidence = 2 yrs) D Day 3/10/14
Me: BS 52
OW: Caribbean whore, ugly
What I want: Profound, deep, passionate love.
What I got: Betrayal, heartache and Xanax.

Posts: 182 | Registered: Apr 2014
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad to hear that. It can be a really hard weekend, and being separated by such a distance can't be easy at all.

Hooray for positive steps!


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16


Posts: 18694 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
annb
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good news in a positive direction.

How long is he gone for? You need to keep the lines of communication open, and your WH needs to be accountable. This is extremely difficult when the spouses are separated, my heart breaks for you as the best way to work through this is together.

Keep us informed, and always trust your gut!


Posts: 7665 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
12yearsloyal
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Member # 43064
Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His job is for an indefinite timeline. He is in the process of liquidating what we have over there, the vehicle, tools, etc.

It may take a month or 2 to sell the stuff. I am hoping not more than 2 months that he can move back to the States. I think this weekend gave him clarity and motivation to move back here. I'm happy to report he has been in communication big time with me so far today.


Him: WS, 51 LTA/EA/PA(he says 1 yr, evidence = 2 yrs) D Day 3/10/14
Me: BS 52
OW: Caribbean whore, ugly
What I want: Profound, deep, passionate love.
What I got: Betrayal, heartache and Xanax.

Posts: 182 | Registered: Apr 2014
norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((12yearsloyal)))

I hope he can step up.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
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