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sunsetslost
♂ 39885
Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sitting outside a UPS store waiting on STBX. We will sign and notarize divorce papers. It will be, God willing, the last thing I have to do. The legal process doesn't bother me. The marriage was over when she slept with another man. I did occur to me that this is likely the last time I'll ever see her. Such a strange thought. I'll be moving out of state in a month. On to bigger and better things. I feel relieved to be almost done but there's grief there, too. It's gonna be a strange day.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 781 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
Williesmom
♀ 22870
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((sunset))

It gets better.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7862 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
nekorb
♀ 40306
Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you strength.

(((sunsetslost)))


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
WeepingBuddhist
♀ 39139
Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck today!


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 673 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
IrishLass518
♀ 34373
Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((sunset)))


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1815 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
gahurts
♂ 33699
Member # 33699
Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope it goes smoothly.

Don't worry if you feel bad a bit. It's OK to morn what was lost and what could have been. Tomorrow begins the rest of your new life.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3522 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
sunsetslost
♂ 39885
Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's grief, of course. Everything was fine. She actually had the guts to say something about "our misfortune". I smiled, kissed her on the cheek and walked away. Then I turned in my resignation at work. I burn more bridges before 10 am than most people do all day.

Thanks for the support


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 781 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
SisterMilkshake
♀ 30024
Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((sunsetslost))))
On to bigger and better things.
Definitely!

eta: Wanted to add that you are a pretty remarkable person, too!

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 9:19 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday)]


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10083 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
DepressedDaddy
♂ 41521
Member # 41521
Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope it went smoothly!

ETA: I just reread you recent post...glad it went smoothly

[This message edited by DepressedDaddy at 10:11 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday)]


Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy

“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."


Posts: 910 | Registered: Dec 2013
hexed
♀ 19258
Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((sunsetlost))

some days its just time to burn it all down and start over.

My X and I did the same thing at a store last summer. We were actually joking a bit about thing and the poor kid at the desk made a comment about what a great couple we were just about a minute before he notarized our D papers AWKWARD!

Then my X made a quip about wanting 1/2 of the $10 it cost to get them notarized. I quipped that I wanted half of the $250 filing fee. He shut up and we walked out and went to our cars and drove off... yep, these things often end with wimper.

Enjoy your new life!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8547 | Registered: Apr 2008
DepressedDaddy
♂ 41521
Member # 41521
Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like a good tagline...

I burn more bridges before 10 am than most people do all day.


Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy

“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."


Posts: 910 | Registered: Dec 2013
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Onward into the future!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10133 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
MadeOfScars
♂ 42231
Member # 42231
Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I burn more bridges before 10 am than most people do all day.

Nice!

Anyway, here's to your bigger and brighter future.


"Don’t let the past steal your present. This is the message of Christmas: We are never alone." - Taylor Caldwell

Posts: 1394 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((sunsets))))


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26476 | Registered: Aug 2011
norabird
♀ 42092
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((sunsetslost)))

It's bittersweet now, but much sweetness to come after, I know.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Abbondad
♂ 37898
Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending support your way, SSL. You've been through hell and maintained your strength and dignity. The best is yet to come in your new life.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1692 | Registered: Dec 2012
nekorb
♀ 40306
Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad it went smoothly!


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
Tripletrouble
♀ 39169
Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is always a tone or writing style in your posts that suggest bigger and better is just ahead for you. That you are ready, and embracing the new life to come. You project hope and healing. Sometimes I envy your freedom to pick up and scram. I look forward to following your new beginning and living vicariously through it. All the best to you sunset!!


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 640 | Registered: May 2013
tesla
♀ 34697
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((sunsetslost))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4819 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
sunsetslost
♂ 39885
Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 12:19 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks to you all. I felt the strength and good thougts. I really did. It was a challenging day. Hugs back to y'all. You picked me up today. You pick me up most days.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 781 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
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