Madhatters - We have R'd.
At the moment, from the outside, it would appear that I'm not doing very much to heal myself. If I'm honest, I have taken a step back in the last few weeks.
There are a few reasons why. I'm having some health issues that need to get sorted, there's been a family crisis which has upset me and needs some attention, both my grandparents are very poorly. So no, I'm not reading or journal writing very much right now.
That doesn't mean I'm not still working on myself though. I'm still on SI every spare minute, I'm still in IC and I'm still applying everything I've learned in the last four months to every day situations (boundaries etc)
Even the things that are preventing me actively working on myself are providing me opportunities for growth. My new coping mechanisms are being tested with the family crisis and my grandparent's illness.
So, your changes and your personal growth my not be happening over night but don't doubt that they are happening. Try not to compare yourself to your BH. It is a life long marathon, not a sprint.
Keep going, I'm rooting for you!
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.