Me: BS Married 11 years, together 21
I remember reading another SI members post a while ago. This SI member mentioned their frustration and anger at their wayward spouse who had either become ill or had had an accident and it became their responsibility to care for the wayward. They spoke about their anger after the way the wayward treated them and anguish about how they still felt angry towards the unwell wayward etc.
So, I'm now feeling very confused at the moment. After much discussion, argument and threatening (this will be explained further in post) (ex?)WH has gone NC with "co-worker friend" a.k.a. selfish loose moral homewrecker.
In the last few months (ex?)WH has been saying that he hasn't felt 'right' in himself - well yes dude, you've been trying to lead two separate lives, lying and deceiving two people for over a year now! So at the beginning of this month I laid the final ultimatum down - her or me. So as you may have guessed, yes, he chose me (ultimatum mentioned above). Now here is the kick in the teeth. (Ex?)WH has slowly become ill in the last two months. The doctors are now doing series of tests and analysis but (ex?)WH fears the worst. He's turned to me for support and has become the man I remember before they started their EA.
My dilemma is - I feel happy because I have my spouse back, I think, yet should this not have happened, would he have ended it with selfish loose moral homewrecker? Now he needs me he's turned to me and not her, yet he couldn't have been bothered by how I felt when they were conducting themselves immorally!
Feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Such conflicting feelings. Am I wrong to feel this? Confused doesn't even begin to describe it. Why did I fight so hard when I may lose him anyway?
Him:WH - EA/PA with engaged COW = "her" ideal : fiancÚ, WH and her in commune (WTF?).
'If you come into my life, the door is open; If you leave my life, the door is open; Just one request, don'