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Breezy150 (original poster member #42421) posted at 10:14 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
I have no doubt that my WH has seen the light made the jump from regret to remorse. Up until now I have been afraid of actually jumping in to attempt R, I was scared of being hurt again.
I had a bit of an epiphany, he can hurt me again, but he can't hurt me worse. I survived and actually have begun to thrive after the revelation of the A. I am so much stronger than I ever imagined I could be.
So I am finally ready to jump in, be vulnerable, and participate in trying to R. There is still a whole lot of work ahead of him, and success rests more on him than me. I also have found a morsel of empathy for him. For him to do IC is going to be very hard. He has never actually processed anything in his life, so decompartmentalizing is going to be very painful.
My IC said that today is the first day she has seen actual peace in me and my decision. I know R may not work and I know that no matter what I am going to be amazing, my life is going to be amazing.
Right now I just wanted to announce that I am all in for R by posting in this forum. 
I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.
BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo
Allornothing ( member #42354) posted at 11:31 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Congratulations, that's great news!
Keep communicating, keep posting, keep healing.
Best of luck to you and Mr Breezy
Me- BS 44
Him- FWH 44
Married 20 years, Together 27
Kids- 24,23,16,15
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant
Gardenerinpain ( new member #42323) posted at 11:34 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Such good news. Wonderful!
Me: BS 61
He: F?WH 72
OW: 70
Married 33 years.
DDay March 2012
Separated since September 2013.
Trying to reconcile.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
William Ernest Henley
Breezy150 (original poster member #42421) posted at 11:38 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Thank you both. It feels good to have a goal at least.
I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.
BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo
LdyD ( member #42870) posted at 1:17 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
Congratulations for coming to this decision! I'm working toward the same thing myself. This is great news!
Me - BW: 43
Him - Ex WH: 42
D-Day #1: 2/16/14 - OW #2
D-Day #2: 11/21/14 -OW #1 Exgf and mom of his 1st DD 2 year EA via email started 2 months after we married.
TT and 9 months of False R - Separated in house and Divorcing.
Married 12 years, Tog
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