I have no doubt that my WH has seen the light made the jump from regret to remorse. Up until now I have been afraid of actually jumping in to attempt R, I was scared of being hurt again.
I had a bit of an epiphany, he can hurt me again, but he can't hurt me worse. I survived and actually have begun to thrive after the revelation of the A. I am so much stronger than I ever imagined I could be.
So I am finally ready to jump in, be vulnerable, and participate in trying to R. There is still a whole lot of work ahead of him, and success rests more on him than me. I also have found a morsel of empathy for him. For him to do IC is going to be very hard. He has never actually processed anything in his life, so decompartmentalizing is going to be very painful.
My IC said that today is the first day she has seen actual peace in me and my decision. I know R may not work and I know that no matter what I am going to be amazing, my life is going to be amazing.
Right now I just wanted to announce that I am all in for R by posting in this forum. 
BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo
