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newlysingle posted 4/22/2014 17:13 PM

So to add to the Gnat drama. He informs me today at pick up that the Hello Kitty has to put one of her dogs down tomorrow. I'm a huge dog lover and lost my beloved dog last year, just before DDay. It was devastating to say the least. I think he thought I would actually feel some empathy. Nope, no I don't. Sure, I feel bad for the dog, but not its wretched owner.

I just looked at him and said. Tell her the pain she will feel tomorrow is just 1/1000 of the pain she has caused me. I wish I could x her pain by 1000 tomorrow.

Yeah, probably the nastiest thing I've ever said, but I don't care. I'm glad she's going to have a bad day tomorrow.

[This message edited by newlysingle at 5:14 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday)]

deena04 posted 4/22/2014 17:29 PM

It's ok. I am smiling reading your post. Is that bad???

justinpaintoday posted 4/22/2014 18:11 PM

sucks to be the dog

MadeOfScars posted 4/22/2014 18:25 PM

Yup, feel sorry for the dog for sure, but not the owner.


It's ok. I am smiling reading your post. Is that bad???

I hope not cuz I am too.

Stay strong newlysingle.

Caretaker1 posted 4/22/2014 18:55 PM

And he would be sharing this....why? And why are you even talking?

SBB posted 4/22/2014 19:15 PM

Gently, that makes him waaaay too important - he's gorging on ego kibbles today. You've also given them some of tang glue they need to hold their relationship together.

A better response would have been crickets or "err, that's none of my business" as if a stranger shared some TMI personal info with you - then you go on your merry way.

Fake it till you make it, NS. For either of them to even attempt to comprehend your pain they would have to have your honour, integrity, empathy. Quit attributing your qualities to them - they don't exist.

newlysingle posted 4/22/2014 19:44 PM

Well, he also shared it because he wanted me to know that my DD would probably be talking about it. Just to prepare me, I guess. I think he was also hoping I feel sad for HK. He still has hope that I will embrace her as a great second mommy to my kids.

newlysingle posted 4/22/2014 19:47 PM

The rest of our conversation was in regards to my DS's speech evaluation coming up. Our conversations generally really do just stick to kids and finances.

thebighurt posted 4/23/2014 14:07 PM

Made me smile, too, but then I remembered when I learned my lesson about saying anything like that to xpos. Very early on, I once said to him that there was no way on earth that I could ever hurt him as much as he had hurt me and told him how much he had taken from me (intangibles). He shrugged (my standard response to anything he said normally) and said, "So? What am I supposed to say to that?" And I guess he was right. I haven't shared anything with him since.

Dreamboat posted 4/23/2014 14:30 PM

Right after my mother died, X called me because he red the obit in the paper. He was sad and upset that I did not tell him. I responded with silence. He took that as an invitation to share and told me that Awhore's father died. This time I was not silence. I said something like "I really don't care. Don't ever mention her to me again. Bye."

I felt no empathy for her or anyone in her family.

So I was mean too and I don't care either.

7yrsflushed posted 4/23/2014 14:35 PM

A better response would have been crickets or "err, that's none of my business" as if a stranger shared some TMI personal info with you - then you go on your merry way.

I personally like to give give my stbxww the blankest face i can come up and with and say, "And your telling me this becausssssssse....." and yes I drag out s sound followed by more blank stare until she gets the message and moves on.

GabyBaby posted 4/23/2014 15:25 PM

I personally like to give give my stbxww the blankest face i can come up and with and say, "And your telling me this becausssssssse....." and yes I drag out s sound followed by more blank stare until she gets the message and moves on.
Bingo!
This one works like a charm and has the added bonus of getting the WS all flustered and off-kilter too.

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