[This message edited by justasinger at 5:07 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Please don't let her, or anyone else, take away your passion for living.
I don't know your story, but what you've written here tells me quite a bit.
Do you have children together?
ETA: I see. Those kids are with her, I'm guessing. Makes it a bit more coplicated.
[This message edited by ThoughtIKnewYa at 4:50 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]
Keep breathing, hon. Go back to the self-care basics. Drink plenty of water. Eat something, even if you don't feel like it. Try to get regular sleep. Move your body in some way every day - go for a walk, ride your bike, punch a heavy bag, whatever floats your boat. But do something physical. It not only gets the endorphins flowing, it also helps your brain process the trauma you've experienced.
Keep posting. We're here for you.
“Fear is the cheapest room in the house. I would like to see you living in better conditions.”
I am so sorry.
They just don't get it, do they?
I am so sorry.
BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo
I'm sorry jas. I'm very sorry for your pain or even worse your decent to apathy. I'm somewhat familiar with your story. I know her relatives are near by if I remember correctly. Any chance of separating outside the house if you need to?
Goddamn tt hurts like hell. Got thatcrap going on here too.
I know the feeling of not caring. That too will pass and then it will be time to decide how you want to deal with it.
I'd be in the spare bed too if we had one. In one way, the fact that she told you is honest on her part. She didnt have to tell you did she? If she didnt, you wouldnt have known. You werent particularly asking her if there was more?
I'm struggling with something similiar myself. He admitted 2 days ago his a lasted 3 years, not 1 like he told me before. We are 4 years past dday. I was pissed!! Still am. But a little voice will pop up in my head and say, "he could have denied it, but he didnt" I too would never have known it was this long if he didnt. Bottom line, he was honest.
I'm sorry if this doesnt help you much. And i sure hope i didnt jack your thread. Just putting out there another way to process the info.
You deserve more stand up for you and your girls.
very well said.
Yes, it's possible to separate outside of the house, but would be extremely unpleasant. Anywhere I went would be a different school district, so DD6 would be put out pretty hard (WSO won't go anywhere else because of the animals that need taking care of and whatnot).
Yes, if she hadn't of said anything I wouldn't have known about it, but I did tell her I knew she wasn't being completely honest with me, and that there was no way for me to get past something if I didn't know everything.
I did think about telling her she needed to go to the spare room, but ultimately decided that since I spent a lot of time cleaning the spare room out, and have not as of yet spent any time cleaning our room, if I go to the spare room I won't have to clean the master BR.
My wife had a long term A with her OM. One year long. I caught her. We started false R. D-day 2 came a month later when I learned that they met back up and screwed on the beach "one last time". I stayed with her, major limbo. 5 monhs later, even after MC sessions, I learnd that she was still seeing him, d-day #3. I moved out and filed for D. She is still with the OM to this day.
Thats not the worse part. See, and LTA with the OM was not disgusting enough for my wife. D-day 4 was about a month ago. She confessed the following:
One of her slut girl friends from high school has a 56 year old married boyfriend. The girl friend in 30 yoa and my wife is 30 yoa. The guy travels on business and in town. He asked the girl to "bring a friend" next time he comes in to town so the can have sex. This girl friend asked my wife if "she wanted in on it" and my slut wife said yes. Can you believe that?
My wife lied and told me she was spending the weekend at the beach with her girl friend. She kissed me and my son goodbye. That day she got het hair done, nails done, and spray tanned while wearing a tiny thong. They all met up at a fancy hotel a frew counties away and had a nasty threesome with this guy. No protection!
I dont know what happened to my wife. She was replace by this whore. We were together 14 year together, married 7 years, and we have an 11 year old son. We both had great careers, two new cars, nice new house, and a great future ahead. We were living the american dream, but that was not good enough for her.
Sorry for what you're going through. I feel for you. I truly do.
I recommend you not limbo. Just D.
I left. I left her the house, furnature and everything! I took my clothes and tool! Most importantly, peace of mind. 7 months of torture limbo was hell. I filed for D.
Im refuse to R with a digisting cheating piece of garbage. Her LTA of 1.5 years was not enough with the OM. She had to have a threesome ONS with a strange man and a girl friend. She cheated on me and her OM!
Good luck to us all
Essentially 'send her to coventry' to use an English phrase. You need time to recover your emotional equilibrium and talking about her numerous affairs, [maybe more she hasn't revealed], is counterproductive right now.
I'm so sorry for what's happened. Even though a part of you prepares for the possibility of it, its still such a disappointment when it happens. And so hurtful.
I can only repeat what everyone else has said: be kind and gentle with yourself for the next few days.
We have your back here.