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2hurtbyfar (original poster new member #32495) posted at 7:38 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Just have to vent.... Grrrr 
Last night we were at friends for dinner, and WH was given a bottle of red wine to open for me as everyone else was having beer.
So he opens the wine, has a sip then turns around in front of everyone and says "this wine is so good, you are not worth it!"
Such a nasty comment! I turned around to him and loud enough said "F*CK YOU" and ignored him the rest of the evening.
When we got home he tried to apologise saying he didnt mean it that way...
I am just so angry with him. Wonder if this is the start of another DD? Previously when he was nasty towards me was when there was another OW on the scene.
Sorry, just needed to vent!! thanks for listening!
“Agree with everything, explain nothing, then do what is best for you.” Sherry Argov
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 7:42 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Oh no he didn't!!!! What a rude asshole. I would be pissed. Wtf, did he think that was going to get laughs? I'm sure it must have been awkward for everyone who heard it. Chicken shit move
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 7:59 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
I knew a couple like this. He made disparaging or downright nasty comments about his beautiful, sweet wife. He made himself look real bad. She finally left him, funny, nobody questioned why she left an asswhole like him. Years later and he was still crying the blues about letting her go was the biggest mistake he ever made! Years later she was happily married to a really great guy and never spared asswhole a thought. True story. Can't believe after all these years I still remember them.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
dailyflowers ( member #34210) posted at 10:43 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
GRRRRRRRRRRR!!!! feeling your anger!!
mine said "Bite my a$$" last week and I almost threw something at him.
so unnecessary
eesh-- what an 'effing mess!!!
ladycody ( member #41401) posted at 10:54 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Ugh...and what way DID he mean it?!?!? @$$
I give you credit for being as restrained as you were...I think I would have lost it. Am sorry you had to deal with that :(
steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 11:08 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
My fWH was like that. He'd treat me like shit in front of people. And people started noticing it. And we had a big fight, and I told him I looked stupid, and was tired of it. He got all uppity, and decided to poll our friends... The consensus was they thought he was an asshole.
Since dday2, he hasn't. A couple of "funnies' have slipped, but he's apologized immediately.
It was his WALL. The wall to keep me from getting too close. If I got too close, I'd see who he really was an leave... (If only i was that smart...)
Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 11:31 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
BreatheAgain10 ( member #32657) posted at 4:06 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
What an effing asshole comment! I don't know how you didn't slap him for it
Why do some men have such a retarded sense of humor?
"The beauty of your life being burned down to the ground is that you can rebuild it any f*cking way you want!"
BW: Me 37yrs WH: 32yrs
Multiple DDays. Lots of TT & lies. Last DDay: 02/07/2015
Tgthr 15yrs, Married 12yrs, in R
4 sons
TheBestMe ( member #39476) posted at 4:38 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
((2hurtbyfar)) My H used to make fun of me in front of people, when he was in the A. The talk was different; more of a put down or a slight. Other people notice when our SO are not nice to us. When I told my relative about the A, she told me that her son had stated that he did not like how my H spoke to me.
When my H would make nasty comments to me, even in private, I was not in the frame of mind to put him in check. Let him try that shit NOW. I can better communicate with him how those comments make me feel. Also, we can talk about why he said it. Some behaviors are simply childish or thoughtless.
ME Doing Better
WH Trying As Best He Can
Married 24 years
Status: Working towards friendship
D Day #1 - 2007 My gut told me
D Day #2 - 2010 His D told me
D Day #3 - 1/11/2013 OW Confirmed
LTA 7 years
Both feet pointed forward; positive
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 4:41 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
I would have commented that I am worth it, but you're not since you cheated...throw the shame game his way. That's me, though.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 4:43 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Let him try that shit NOW.
Exactly. We had one issue, about a month after dday2... and we went to a big group dinner... and he started being an ass... and I called him on it, right there in front of everyone... and he started around the table, "did you think that was mean?" general consensus, "Yeah, dude, that was mean. And you do it all the time."
Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 4:59 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Gently, this may not apply to all situations, but to put down and condescend seems to be a control tactic and verbally abusive tactic. Again, it may not always be true, but can often be true. It seems to be a way to make someone question their self-worth and put themselves in an upper hand situation. It can also be used to make themselves feel better or less guilty with their own actions. Either way, it sucks and is not right!
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
allusions ( member #25376) posted at 5:18 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
He doesn't think you are worth a bottle of fermented grape juice? Really?
You can apologize over and over, but if your actions don't change, your words become meaningless.
Behind every crazy bitch is a sweet girl who just got tired of being lied to.
I've found the key to happiness: Stay away from assholes.
Charity411 ( member #41033) posted at 5:46 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
I'd have broken the bottle over his head like I was launching a new ship with a bottle of champagne. I'd be launching him right out the door.
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