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Topic: Some Hope in the Wayward Forum
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BaxtersBFF
♂ 26859
Member # 26859 |  Posted: 7:52 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 |     |
Today is our 21st Wedding Anniversary!
The A happened right after our 14th, so we've made it 7-years past that. Looking at those 14-years, gerrygirl and I both have good memories of that period, but we also don't want to let ourselves go back to the type of M we had before. I mean, we got M for a reason right? We loved each other. What we didn't know is that it takes work. We learned that post-A, I think I especially learned that lesson...and now, here we are.
Gerrygirl, I love you, and I'm happy to be able to wake up next to you each morning. 
WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl
Posts: 6103 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise |
lostworld
♀ 19197
Member # 19197 | | Posted: 7:59 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congrats to you both! So nice to see good news in this forum 
Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married Over 30 years w/ grown kids
Dday 1: 2007
Dday 2: Mid 2008 (same MOW, 14 month false R)
R'd
The affair was the aberration, not the marriage or the man.
Posts: 834 | Registered: Apr 2008 |
brokeback
♀ 41726
Member # 41726 | | Posted: 8:16 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congratulations on 21 years together and surviving and thriving post-affair.
I'm happy for you both.
ME 43
BS 38
1 Child 3 years old
Married 18 years
DDay - 10/2013. EA 9 months. PA 4 months. Ended the affair 11/2014
Posts: 69 | Registered: Dec 2013 |
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528 | | Posted: 8:46 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Happy Anniversary!! 
Posts: 38216 | Registered: Mar 2011 |
LosferWords
♂ 30369
Member # 30369 | | Posted: 8:57 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Happy Anniversary, Bax and Gerrygirl!
"I'm touched by the idea that when we do things that are useful and helpful -- collecting these shards of spirituality -- that we may be helping to bring about a healing." — Leonard Nimoy
Posts: 10448 | Registered: Dec 2010 |
heartbroken0903
♀ 27879
Member # 27879 | | Posted: 9:52 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Happy anniversary to you both! Congratulations!
Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids
Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10
We remarried in 2014
Posts: 2422 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow |
Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886 | | Posted: 9:53 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Happy anniversary!
Congrats on surviving and thriving.
"You give me that bottom of the 9th, last at bat, tied game, grand slam, full of butterflies kind of feeling." - My Husband
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Posts: 6770 | Registered: Nov 2011 |
BrokenButTrying
♀ 42111
Member # 42111 | | Posted: 10:05 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congratulations! Well done you guys :)
Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters in R.
My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.
Posts: 1283 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK |
AML04
♀ 39682
Member # 39682 | | Posted: 10:56 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Happy Anniversary!! This brought tears to my eyes.
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
Posts: 876 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA |
Jrazz
♀ 31349
Member # 31349 | | Posted: 11:25 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Love it!
"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron
Posts: 20734 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California |
authenticnow
♀ 16024
Member # 16024 | | Posted: 2:41 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Happiness is an inside job. ---William Arthur Ward
Posts: 40786 | Registered: Sep 2007 |
Unagie
♀ 37091
Member # 37091 | | Posted: 2:42 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Happy Anniversary!!!
Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild
No longer together
"There are times when our reality is nothing but pain, and to escape that pain the mind must leave reality behind." Patrick Rothfuss
Posts: 2895 | Registered: Oct 2012 |
OnAnIsland
♀ 34319
Member # 34319 | | Posted: 4:12 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Happy anniversary!
D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou
Posts: 1482 | Registered: Dec 2011 |
Teach8
♀ 36521
Member # 36521 | | Posted: 4:20 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Happy Anniversary to you both. And thank you for the hope.
Me: BW. Him: WH. Dday: 4/26/12. TT until 8/15/12 LTA 7 years. Trying to R
Posts: 515 | Registered: Aug 2012 |
HUFI-PUFI
♂ 25460
Member # 25460 | | Posted: 4:28 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
BaxtersBFF - I think I especially learned that lesson ... and now, here we are .... our 21st Wedding Anniversary!
Don’t listen to your head, it’s easily confused. Don’t listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.
Posts: 3293 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Azilda, Northern Ontario |
gahurts
♂ 33699
Member # 33699 | | Posted: 4:32 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congratulations to you both!!
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Posts: 3658 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia |
justasinger
♂ 43031
Member # 43031 | | Posted: 4:48 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
congrats, it is great to hear some good news
BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)
Posts: 164 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: New England |
Deeply Scared
♀ 2
Member # 2 | | Posted: 4:57 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Baxter...
It's always such a joy to see you here!!! Give our love to Gerrygirl and job well done!!!
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Posts: 200849 | Registered: May 2002 |
sunnyrain
♀ 30164
Member # 30164 | | Posted: 6:11 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Happy Anniversary!
"I'm not much into health food, I am into champagne."
Posts: 450 | Registered: Nov 2010 |
BaxtersBFF
♂ 26859
Member # 26859 | | Posted: 6:30 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Thanks everyone! (Can't remember ever getting the clapping hand guy...Thanks Hufi)
WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl
Posts: 6103 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise |
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