I pretty much found out a week ago today exactly what had been going on between my WH and the OW (my ex-best friend). I had always had my suspicions, but never acted on them (or was lied about it when I asked directly).
Anyway, my birthday is this week and I want to do something by myself. I usually do everything with my WH. Over the past year, it usually included the other couple. But this year I want to do something independently of everyone else so I can have time to myself.
I tried running through ideas. The only thing I could figure out is go early to a local friendly bar that has some very nice outdoor seating and read a book. And I figured I would do that. I would have a beer or two and read an hour. I couldn't stay long or drink much (not that I really want to drink anyway) because I have work the next day.
This morning I woke up to thinking that might be a bad idea. Drinking isn't really want I want to be doing right now (even if it's just one or two). And I don't exactly want to talk to people. I just wanted to be left alone to read in a friendly, happyish place. Then I felt selfish as I was ignoring that I could do something with my son.
Any ideas? I asked my son about golfing. But the golfing range we would go to will probably have a super long wait after work. I usually would spend those evenings at those friends house and that's where our problem of opportunity started. Now I don't know what do to on my own as I haven't done anything on my own in a LONG time. I just want the entire evening out of the house until it's time for me to go to bed. If it includes my son, great! If it's ideas just for me, then great as well. I do need time on my own. I'd go out with different friends, but I really don't have any other people that I am friendly enough to want to go out with. I'm an odd ball enough as it is (-- as is my WH, which is why we had gotten a long so well as a couple.)