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solus sto posted 4/24/2014 08:37 AM

It's Affair Season. Well, the most strongly affecting season; there was enough infidelity to fill the whole calendar. But it's the Season of the End for me. At four (!) years out, I am generally good--balanced and much happier than I've ever been.

But it creeps in, you know? I hadn't given date or time of year much thought, except to note that our next (last?) court date is also the anniversary of something else negative in our lives "together." (I now know there was never an "us," or "together.")

I was surprised by general weepiness and physical malaise yesterday and this morning. PMS? Probably. But then I saw the calendar. Four years yesterday was the Terminal D-Day, the one that broke me, took all hope (never mind that hope was misguided; I am grateful I can experience it even when things appear hopeless... Well, except when I can't, any longer.)

No real point to this, I guess. It just strikes me as interesting that our subconscious and bodies remember even if we forget to look at the calendar. I wonder if April 23 will one day just be another day, one that doesn't get even an, "0h, yeah--that explains why I fee this way!" I suppose it will.. Might even be getting close.

jackie89 posted 4/24/2014 08:46 AM

It just strikes me as interesting that our subconscious and bodies remember even if we forget to look at the calendar. I wonder if April 23 will one day just be another day, one that doesn't get even an, "0h, yeah--that explains why I fee this way!" I suppose it will.. Might even be getting close.

Yeap it will happen one of these days...on a Tuesday as ****** says, and you will reach the great state of "Meh"

I'm hoping my Meh day.. is getting close too!

[This message edited by SI Staff at 3:18 PM, April 24th (Thursday)]

deena posted 4/24/2014 08:56 AM

I found this happens to me too.
D-Day is beginning of December, gets me down every year, even this year when I was so busy at that time and had almost forgotten. I just started to not function as good. Lost concentration. Thought I was coming down with something, then I realized what month it was.

mainlyinpain posted 4/24/2014 09:08 AM

(((solus sto)))

Hopefully as time goes by this will lessen.

Maybe make it a point to make this time period extra special for yourself from now on, a trip, planned hedonism, every day something that makes you happy.

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