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broken2 posted 4/24/2014 12:11 PM

I was at work the other day (my second job). I was up at the cashier's area doing something when a customer walked up and wanted to check out. I quickly signed on to the register and started the checking out process including the required company lingo etc.

The customer was a mom with her 16/17 year old son. During our verbal back and forth during the check out process, I turned my attention to the register to proceed with the transaction. I heard the son say, "You're beautiful." I didn't react since there was no doubt in my mind that he was most definitely not talking to me. There was silence and no one spoke. I turned to the son and he was looking straight at me. I hesitated and questioned, "I'm beautiful?" he smiled and said "yes" and he honestly looked like he meant it. (there was no creepy factor involved)

Okay, so I'm at work and this young man just extends this compliment to me. Had I been anywhere else I would have burst out in tears. So again, there is silence and I quickly compose myself and hid the "oh my God factor" from showing on my face. I took a step back looked at the young man and said "thank you". I then turned my attention back to the mother and told her, "kudos to you mom, for raising such a nice young man."

I don't know. This just really hit home for me. I most certainly do not consider myself anywhere near the definition of beautiful. I was struck by this young man's sincerity. He must have meant it, why would he have said it if he didn't?

I have worked on myself both physically (having lost 55 pounds) and mentally (counseling, reading) I have allowed myself to look in the mirror and see someone that if I were another person, I could be friends with me. I guess my point to all this is yes, it was a 16/17 year old who complimented me. I have had friends and family compliment me on my transformation. I guess it took this young man's 2 words to realize maybe it really IS true. Granted, he doesn't know me from Adam, but perhaps I am now radiating something that I haven't been in so long that even a 16/17 year old can see it.

I am so very hard on myself, I suppose it's time I pat myself on the back a bit and say well done b2, you are on the right path. You're confidence and good attitude is back. You'll be ok.

[This message edited by broken2 at 1:15 PM, April 24th (Thursday)]

thebighurt posted 4/24/2014 12:17 PM

Beautiful post. Keep thinking those thoughts.

Waiting4Daylite posted 4/24/2014 12:21 PM

He must have meant it, why would he have said it if he didn't?

Because you are! Inside and out.

nowiknow23 posted 4/24/2014 12:31 PM

What a lovely moment.

nutmegkitty posted 4/24/2014 12:32 PM

Love this post!

better4me posted 4/24/2014 12:38 PM

relish this moment. savor it. remember it.

Nature_Girl posted 4/24/2014 12:50 PM

This makes me so happy for you!

Sad in AZ posted 4/24/2014 13:20 PM

True beauty shines out. I don't doubt that the young man was serious. It's a mark of great achievement that you were able to accept the compliment.

jjct posted 4/24/2014 13:27 PM

So happy for you!
This is so great!

5454real posted 4/24/2014 13:57 PM

Isn't it wonderful how kids just sometimes blurt the truth?

Kudo's to you for the way you accepted the compliment.

justasinger posted 4/24/2014 14:15 PM

Yes, very well done, by the boy and by you. And I'm sure he meant it, as I am sure that it's true. I have never been a subscriber to the "runway models" view of beauty. I'm much more into the beautiful soul beauty...

justasinger posted 4/24/2014 14:21 PM

Isn't it wonderful how kids just sometimes blurt the truth?

Oh, so about a year ago, my children's grandmother quit smoking, and she gained about 75 pounds. She was not thin before quitting, and 75 pounds is a lot to gain even for a thin person. I'm sitting on the couch visiting, and my then 5yo walks up to grandma, pokes her in the belly, and says, you have a big belly. extremely awkward moment, let me tell you, but grandma is now walking and getting into some low impact exercising, and looking back on it, I think that the comment from my 5yo could have been WAY worse.

getnbtr1 posted 4/24/2014 14:36 PM

Isn't it great how the universe makes sure we get just what we need sometimes?

NoLongerWantHim posted 4/24/2014 14:38 PM

What's even nicer is that you believe it!!!

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