Wh tries this on me sometimes. If we are alone (no children w/in ear shot), I tend to remind him that I was not the one keeping secrets and he is welcome to look at any text/email I may send or receive. I have also been known to tell him he is being a passive/aggressive jerk and acting like a 2 year old.
It's a control thing for him and I'm not taking it.
eta: Wh also tried when his affair first came out to blame me for having an affair since I had been alone with a man .... Yup, I was in the same room with a man whose wife had just died waiting for the funeral home to arrive. Real conducive to screwing. Wh just about lost his balls with that comment. He's never brought it up again. I think waywards grasp at straws and instead of 'manning up' try to deflect blame. It is all part of the crazy making.
[This message edited by stunnedin12 at 2:44 PM, April 24th (Thursday)]