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User Topic: Rough day
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Concerned  Posted: 3:18 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Caught Crazz in a lie/boundary breach. Not sure where it lands on the scale but I'm definitely feeling that DDay ice water in the veins and heart. I know I've posted a lot about struggling with wanting to work on the relationship, but it still hurts like crazy, it turns out.

I'm going to go ride my bike and think about all the things I'm grateful for. If you have some spare mojo/prayers/good thoughts, I think I need a nudge this afternoon.

Thanks.

[This message edited by Jrazz at 3:19 PM, April 24th (Thursday)]


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Posts: 18673 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((( Jrazz )))
I'm so sorry, hon.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6735 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
justinpaintoday
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Member # 42858
Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jrazz: sorry for the rough spot. R is not linaer right? Keep moving forward but trust your gut and spidey senses. If something seems amiss weed it out. Riding your bike...thats something to be thankful for in itself. Your healthy and able to enjoy the outdoors.

Prayers and support


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jrazz)))

I've seen few on here work as hard as you do to make this work, to give leeway, to love as hard as you can...you're in my thoughts, sweetie, and I'm sending love and support as always.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38925 | Registered: Sep 2007
Mochagurl
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Member # 14660
Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Jrazz)) Sorry. Ride your bike and trust your gut.


Me: BS-55
Him: WS-55
Married: 35 years
DD 36, DD 26, DS 22, DD 19
You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.

Posts: 245 | Registered: May 2007 | From: Ohio
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And yes, you're definitely in my thoughts.
Sending lots of healing mojo your way.
((( Jrazz )))


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6735 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are always so kind and giving. I hope your ride helps you sort things out.

Mojo and support heading your way.

[This message edited by karmahappens at 3:30 PM, April 24th (Thursday)]


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3872 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
dameia
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jrazz)))

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I will send prayers, good thoughts, and mojo your way.


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.


Posts: 1209 | Registered: Jul 2012
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jrazz)))

So sorry to hear of this. Sending lots of mojo and thoughts your way.


Posts: 8232 | Registered: Dec 2010
hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is a beautiful day here in my part of California...get out and ride and feel the wind in your face!! In fact I think I'll
follow my own advice and get some needed Vitamin D myself...


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 06-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



Posts: 702 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
Teach8
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jrazz)))

Two steps forward one step back? I'm so sorry you are hurting. I hope the bike ride helps to clear your mind and thoughts. Sending thoughts and strength your way.


Me: BW. Him: WH. Dday: 4/26/12. TT until 8/15/12 LTA 7 years. Trying to R

Posts: 509 | Registered: Aug 2012
OnAnIsland
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jrazz, sending you some good thoughts and wishes. i hope your bicycle ride helped you figure some things out. maybe formulate what you need to say and how to say it.

i am a huge believe in journalling it out too. i try to journal the things i have to be thankful for and the changes i see in mr. oai, and i journal when i can't figure out what to do or say. when something just isn't right but i haven't figured out how to address it yet.

thinking of you.


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


Posts: 1482 | Registered: Dec 2011
5454real
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mucho mojo sent your way. You know what you need.

Strength

(((Jrazz)))


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 21(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 3290 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
BreatheAgain10
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jrazz)))
I hope that bike ride helps clear your head and gives you some peace. I know bike riding for me had been the best therapy for my health, asthma, and my soul. Riverside county has some awesome scenic trails. Hope they do in your part of Cali as well. I pray you feel better!


By God's blessing we've survived, but the scars are still tender to the touch.
BW: Me 34yrs FWH: 29yrs
Latest D-Day 04/29/2010
Together: 12yrs Married: 10yrs
DS:16yrs DS:9yrs. DS:Due 6/25/14
Main D-Day that hurts is #4 4/29/10
OW=Yuck!

Posts: 273 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Sunny So. Cal.
tearingaway
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are in my thoughts, Jrazz. Sorry for the rough day.

Posts: 357 | Registered: May 2010
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jrazz)))

I just love you so much, I hate that you're going through this again. If my heart is breaking I can only imagine how you must be feeling


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 199161 | Registered: May 2002
CheaterMagnet
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Member # 33581
Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you strength and peace.

I'm so sorry.


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

Posts: 1068 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Kailua-Kona, HI
confused615
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Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im sorry to hear this, honey.


(((((((Jrazz)))))))


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 8075 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
DixieD
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Member # 33457
Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm really sorry. (((((Jrazz)))))


Growing forward

Posts: 1767 | Registered: Sep 2011
HFSSC
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Member # 33338
Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aww, Sweetie. I'm sorry. This sucks.

Get some sun on your face and know that no matter what, you are okay.

(((Jrazz)))


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 18 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2935 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
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