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User Topic: Here I am!
wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been a while since I've been around so I thought I'd give an update...

Loaded up last week and me and Jackson the dog drove 13 hours here to LA (Lower Alabama) to set up the new place... It is beautiful... I overlook the 16th green and fairway of a country club from my screened in porch... It is truly Paradise...

My brother is a 5 minute walk down the street if the Jackson dog doesn't sniff around too much... My brother's feeling much better than he did a month ago when I was down here...

Hopefully the chemo drug he's on is doing it's work but we won't know until scans in a couple of weeks... He just finished radiation on three tumors and that's helped with the pain...

He's feeling well enough to want to go on an Alaska cruise so yesterday we booked one, paid up and head out in three weeks...

We're pretty isolated out here so I'm not optimistic about finding a circle of friends but I've got tons of family (cousins) within 30 minutes so that's good...


My mind was struggling with the move but everyday I enjoy it more... As soon as I got here I had to fly to Houston and drive an hour and a half to a friend and client's funeral... He had a stroke and went home with hospice so I went and visited him early in the week I made the move here... It's been an emotionally and mentally trying time but it's also been rewarding in it's own ways...

What I am surprised at is that KD has kept in touch... We were trying to morph what we had into a friendship and that had it's own ups and downs but the distance and me not being accessible to have a drink or go out to eat with has kind of left her world a little more lonesome... It's been good for me... I'd detached a lot which at first was difficult but progessed nicely with time...

This weekend I'm going to take the Jackson dog to the beach... It's only 45 minutes away... Can't wait to see what kind of reaction he has to that...

Over all... Life's new adventure is pretty damn good...

I've been catching up on everyone and there seem to be quite a few of us here that have some fun and exciting things happening... That's what New Beginnings are all about... I'll be around more...

Keep smiling everyone...

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 6004 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a wonderful update. Glad to hear your brother is managing well and you get to spend some time together.


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3578 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
cayc
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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for checking in! I had been wondering how the move had gone. I'm glad your brother is doing well too.


"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott

Posts: 3208 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you! So glad to hear things are working out and that your brother is doing well. Here's to new beginnings!


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2146 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi WB... glad things are going well for you!

The other WB


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey WB,

Good news about your brother. I hope you enjoy the Alaska cruise and he continues to progress and the scans all come out clean. Hope you enjoy living on the Gulf Coast. I'd go back there is a heartbeat if I could.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's good to hear from you! Sending positive thoughts for you and your brother....my aunt just finished chemo and she is doing very well with it...a positive outlook helps a lot, I think.

I think you will enjoy the cruise, I've heard Alaskan cruises are usually very beautiful.

It seems like you are at peace with things, I'm glad!


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15552 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good to hear from you, wb. Glad to hear that your brother has some relief from the pain and is up for a cruise. I'm sure it will be therapeutic and memorable for both of you.

Keeping a good thought for the upcoming scans. Don't be such a stranger, ok?


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 11:09 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi WB, Glad to hear you and your brother are doing so well. Welcome to another NB
I have a cat named Jackson, he thinks he's dog until a real dog is in his space. He's very confused


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1815 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:00 AM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good update. Thanks so much. So glad your brother feels up to doing the cruise and you jumped right on it. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did the one I took last year.

You are a good person to have taken the time to visit your client/friend while you had so much going on. That was a huge detour. Your brother is a lucky man to have you able to be with him.

Um, I hesitate to say this, hope you don't take it the wrong way, but that statement about not being optimistic about a circle of friends but having lots of relatives nearby sounds a bit like the usual *stereotypes* of Alabama!
(Sorry, j/k)


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 3:07 AM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi WB....I've been wondering how things were going. I am soooo glad to hear your bro is feeling better, and well enough to contemplate a cruise. WooHoo!

Hang in there, and bless you for stepping in to help him. I truly hope his treatments take hold and he goes into true remission. I think having loved ones come & show that they care (a lot) can make a world of difference for a person with cancer. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for the both of you (because I know how hard this is all going to be on you). Sending you and your brother all the healing light that I can.

Enjoy the cruise!


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's great to hear from everyone...

It's funny setting up a new place... I remember when I moved out after I caught the ex cheating... We had combined households and of course nothing of mine fit into her decor... I had to buy all new furniture as I had none, silverware... You name it...

This place is furnished but there was a lack of things like silverware...

Last night there was panic.... This place has no corkscrew!... WTH...

My brother and my SIL have been great... They love the Jackson doggie... Tonight we're inviting some cousins here to Paradise for a stir fry night...

Everyday for my brother is a little different... Getting just the right combination of pain meds is very important... Yesterday was not his best day but he's a tough dude...

Our other 7 siblings are a bit jealous that I'm able to move here and not miss a beat... We've got a sister coming next week for a visit but I've got to be in Dallas for 3 days on business so I'll just see her Thursday and Friday...

There really isn't that much to do here except read, play my piano or guitar, cook, eat and drink... I got Directv hooked up yesterday but I haven't turned a TV on because I love listening to the sounds of the night... Every night the coyotes howl and yelp and the frogs get tuned up for their serenade...

A year ago I would have never in my wildest imagination thought I'd be where I am...

Life's an adventure... Good, bad and indifferent... It's what you squeeze out of it that matters...

I'll keep you all updated...

WB

[This message edited by wonderingbull at 9:40 AM, April 26th (Saturday)]


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 6004 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

<<<<waves!

And DON'T PANIC!

http://www.wikihow.com/Open-a-Wine-Bottle-Without-a-Corkscrew


Posts: 6845 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There really isn't that much to do here except read, play my piano or guitar, cook, eat and drink... I got Directv hooked up yesterday but I haven't turned a TV on because I love listening to the sounds of the night... Every night the coyotes howl and yelp and the frogs get tuned up for their serenade...


total bliss!!!! I sold my piano years ago during the D and I completely regret it. Coyotes are my favorite choir. :) You are a lucky man.


I'm glad that this move is turning out to be a good decision.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That sounds wonderful WB. So happy for you.

Three words of advice:

Swiss
Army
Knife

I never travel without one.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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