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marlie2014 posted 4/24/2014 21:47 PM

Monday morning the STBX and I will go to court and appear before the judge, explaining that we wish to be divorced.

Apparently my lawyer is not allowed to go in with me, nor is anyone else. But I will have him and a friend of mine waiting for me outside. The lawyer made it sound very simple and straightforward.

So from there it's supposed to be approximately 15 days until the judge hands down his "decision," in other words the final decree.

Please send me mojo, good vibes, prayers, etc. I'll need them!

And heaven help him if he decides not to show up. He was trying to convince me when I called him to tell him we had a court date that I should wait. Um, no. I don't think so. The faster I'm 100% legally free of him, the better!

MadeOfScars posted 4/24/2014 22:02 PM

Sending you mojo and good thoughts- I hope all goes well (and he shows up)!

Mine should be final this Monday (for real this time), so any leftover mojo I have afterwards, you can have all of that too. We got your back!

nowiknow23 posted 4/24/2014 22:04 PM

Major Monday Mojo!

Gemini71 posted 4/25/2014 07:31 AM

Prayers and positive thoughts coming your way!

marlie2014 posted 4/25/2014 08:16 AM

Thank you! It's funny, I shouldn't be nervous but I am. After all, it isn't like one gets divorced often in this life, right?

Elaine2012 posted 4/25/2014 08:22 AM

Mojo!!! and a ((((marlie2014))).

WeepingBuddhist posted 4/25/2014 08:52 AM

Sending you mojo! Hoe you have a good weekend and everything goes the way you want on Monday!

Kajem posted 4/25/2014 10:45 AM

Mojo on its way!!!

You've got this.

Hugs,
K

copout posted 4/25/2014 11:32 AM

Tons of mojo your way!

marlie2014 posted 4/28/2014 00:40 AM

Holy cow it's in less than 12 hours now!

dmari posted 4/28/2014 01:29 AM

OMGosh it's pretty soon!!! Sending you positive energy! I'm so glad you will have a friend with you waiting outside and don't forget WE ALL are with you in spirit! Keep us updated when you can!

nekorb posted 4/28/2014 06:25 AM

Any minute now!!

Prayers and mojo coming your way!

MadeOfScars posted 4/28/2014 12:37 PM

Hope you have some good news for us soon marlie2014 Sending mojo and happy thoughts!

marlie2014 posted 4/28/2014 15:36 PM

So we went to court this morning. I had a friend waiting outside for moral support, and my lawyer accompanied me. I was only alone with the STBX for about 5 minutes or less, during which time he tried to hold my hand and looked gooey-eyed, but I wasn't playing. I said, "So, when is your baby going to be born?" And when he tried to ignore the question and mumbled that he didn't know, I said, "I thought you said you were going to be responsible for the child?" He sort of let go a bit and mumbled another nonsense answer, and then we went in with the judge/clerk/whatever she was and did the paperwork, signed, affirmed that we did want to proceed with the divorce, and went out into the hallway.


So he gave me a sort of half-hug to which I did not respond and said, "See you later" to which I also did not respond, and I left with the lawyer.

I sincerely hope that after today, I never see him again.

Now the paperwork will begin to change my last name...ugh. Oh, well.

marlie2014 posted 4/28/2014 15:37 PM

PS, thanks tons for the prayers (I am a woman of faith, so prayers are appreciated) and the mojo!

Gemini71 posted 4/28/2014 17:58 PM

So glad things went as well as can be expected. Take a deep breath and appreciate how far you've come.

MadeOfScars posted 4/28/2014 19:37 PM

Hey marlie2014....*fistbump*

Let your faith continue to guide you. You're going to be fine. Sending you more mojo, prayers and thoughts for when you need it.

marlie2014 posted 4/28/2014 21:04 PM

Thank you, and congrats -- I see your divorce was made final today!
*applause*

Caretaker1 posted 4/28/2014 21:29 PM

So this jerk is having a baby with another yet you let him hold your hand and hug you? Good riddance. What a guy. Hopefully you meet someone that is normal.

[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 9:30 PM, April 28th (Monday)]

marlie2014 posted 4/29/2014 08:06 AM

I didn't want to make a scene. We were in public. So instead of jerking myself away or saying "get off me you idiot," I brought up the subject of his soon-to-be-born baby.

The night before, when I called him to remind him of the appointment in the morning (because he's the type that would conveniently "forget"), he asked if I were going to take him out to eat afterwards.