The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
My husband is dyslexic, so the texts were simple and only one or two words.
Example:"Want to F___?"
So yes, my rational and integrity bound self knows that what they texted all day were tawdry ego boosts for each other.
Sigh. I don't even know who that guy was.
I just find this concept hard to get. I don't need that validation. I don't need to think that anyone is thinking of me, Or even want people thinking of me really. He doesn't think that is healthy
So I wonder, if I don't really care if anyone is thinking of me, is that unhealthy? I mean of course, when I am interacting with someone, I don't expect to be ignored, but I don't really wish that anyone -other than the one that is supposed be my loving spouse- has me in their thoughts much of the day. I mean, everyone has their own lives. I'm not worried that I don't take up a lot of their thoughts. It is not something that I "need"
I'm working out a future post discussing needs. There have been a lot of posts about what people need from a spouse, etc. I struggle with the fact that maybe if I don't have certain needs, I don't recognize the needs of others and WH's.
IMO, wants and needs are different. What do we need to survive-the very basics of life and what are actually wants or "nice to haves" to make life easier/more enjoyable.