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No12turn2 (original poster member #40996) posted at 3:56 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Went to court yesterday. It's final and she didn't fight me on anything. As of today, I am a new man
Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 4:02 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
I'm so glad it wasn't a protracted battle.
I celebrated mine because it was a long time coming (mandatory waiting periods). There's no 'right' way to feel about it and it can change from one day to the next.
For me even in my worst days it was still better than being lied to, deceived, abused and cheated on. Better than my best days in that M because the feelings are authentic.
It's not how I planned it but it's a hell of a lot better than the way it was heading.
Congratulations on being free. Here's to your New Beginning!
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
MadeOfScars ( member #42231) posted at 4:05 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Whether its congratulations or condolences you need in this moment, I wish you the best in your new life. I know you'll make it a great one!
"Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t." - Steve Maraboli
No12turn2 (original poster member #40996) posted at 4:19 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Caretaker1 ( member #42777) posted at 4:22 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Lucky you not being fought on in every detail. Who gets the girls? Who got the major assets, who is paying CS?
No12turn2 (original poster member #40996) posted at 4:37 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
50/50 on girls. One week here, one week there. The off parent gets a 2 hour dinner night with the girls on Wednesdays. I was assigned as the primary residence for their school. I get the home we live in and the house in Colorado was ordered to be sold. I split the profit with her AFTER any out of pocket expenses are reimbursed to me. No alimony but I will pay $630 a month CS.
Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 4:37 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Mazel tov on your new chapter.
No12turn2 (original poster member #40996) posted at 5:07 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Going to cleanse my life of her starting with the house. This should be really awkward for her. She was given 30 days to move out. She will get to see how fast I am moving on.
Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
DepressedDaddy ( member #41521) posted at 5:28 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
It sounds like yo are happy with the results, so that means we are too! Congratulations and always remember that you have a lot of life in front of you. That's what I am hanging on at least!
Just take care of you now.
Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:34 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Welcome to the other side, No1. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 5:50 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
You should expect a little jealousy from those of us who live in places with a one year waiting period before we can even file.
Sorry, that was off-topic. Despite the jealousy, I'm very happy for you!
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
No12turn2 (original poster member #40996) posted at 7:48 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
I had my jealousy with those who were attempting to R. Struggled with coming here on most days. Time to wake myself up and get things moving in the right direction
Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 8:13 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
I hear you, No12. You're doing great!
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
WestMonroe91 ( member #41999) posted at 12:19 AM on Saturday, April 26th, 2014
Congratulations.
I hope to join your status real soon but WW is stalling by asking for more discovery. No SS or CS is involved. I just want to get to the settlement phase so I too can start a new life.
BS-60 (me)
WS-49
DD-25, DS-21, DS-20
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