Topic: Divorce is Final!!
Member # 39616
| Posted: 12:59 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014|
Part of my nightmare is over! The divorce is final! Still a struggle dealing with the narcissistic asshat. But I am getting stronger! With a bit more emotional distance I can see how emotionally and verbally abusive he was and is. Now he openly brags about all his women, past and current. And he is on a downward spiral. I look for him to implode soon. He is going to be homeless in a week, the friend he was living with has evicted him for "coming onto" to many of his dates. He is drinking a lot more and his anger is getting way worse. He is seeing that being a "player" isn't all he thought it would be. I call it karma.
~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ XWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~
Posts: 85 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: brokenhearted76
Member # 42231
| Posted: 1:29 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014|
Here's to your bright, bright future!
As life gets longer, awful feels softer and it feels pretty soft to me. If it takes shit to make bliss then I feel pretty blissfully. If life's not beautiful without the pain, then I'd rather never see beauty again.
Posts: 2429 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
Member # 24961
| Posted: 6:42 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014|
Congrats on being done BH76. It's so sad to watch them spiral down and wonder what the heck happened to the person we thought we married. May he get everything he deserves.
Now you...You get on with that new beginning!
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Posts: 5879 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Member # 38122
| Posted: 10:57 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014|
Congratulations! I hope that you and he BOTH get exactly what you deserve!
Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 13 and 15
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!
Posts: 2686 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 27275
| Posted: 12:18 AM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014|
Your freedom sounds so good.
I am just starting this process and it is daunting right now.
Glad to read your post and see what the future holds
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.
Posts: 3268 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Canada
Member # 37215
| Posted: 3:03 AM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
Congratulations!! You are a strong woman and momma! You will of course continue getting stronger while he can continue to spiral down. Enjoy your new beginning!
I SURVIVED infidelity. Me 44, DD 20, DS 17
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."
Posts: 2833 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 27148
| Posted: 4:53 AM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
Congrats!!! Enjoy your freedom and new life!
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Posts: 3656 | Registered: Jan 2010
Member # 42856
| Posted: 4:32 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
Congrats!!! I'm only a bit over a month out from my dday, but I'm already looking down the road to D. I reading in this forum to help get strength to get ready for it.
I'm glad things are looking up for you! And, yes, I do believe your ex will get his sooner or later. What goes around comes around. You just keep being the bigger, better person and an awesome mama and you are going to go far!!!
Me - 43
WH - 41
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Divorce from the ass is in progress!
You can see more of my story on my blog here: http://thatcraftylunchlady.com/?p=833
"Never give up hope and let time heal you"
Posts: 340 | Registered: Mar 2014
Member # 39139
| Posted: 8:08 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014|
Me: BS 46
Posts: 913 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: BFE
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