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User Topic: Divorce is Final!!
♀ 39616
Member # 39616
Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Part of my nightmare is over! The divorce is final! Still a struggle dealing with the narcissistic asshat. But I am getting stronger! With a bit more emotional distance I can see how emotionally and verbally abusive he was and is. Now he openly brags about all his women, past and current. And he is on a downward spiral. I look for him to implode soon. He is going to be homeless in a week, the friend he was living with has evicted him for "coming onto" to many of his dates. He is drinking a lot more and his anger is getting way worse. He is seeing that being a "player" isn't all he thought it would be. I call it karma.

~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ XWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~

Posts: 85 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: brokenhearted76
♂ 42231
Member # 42231
Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's to your bright, bright future!

"Character is the ability to follow through on commitments that were made in moments of high resolve even when we no longer feel like it." Carl Andersen

Posts: 3130 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
♀ 24961
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats on being done BH76. It's so sad to watch them spiral down and wonder what the heck happened to the person we thought we married. May he get everything he deserves.

Now you...You get on with that new beginning!

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

Posts: 5921 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! I hope that you and he BOTH get exactly what you deserve!

Me: 1970
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?

Married Aug/95
DDay Nov/12
Separated Mar/13
Finally divorced Jul/17

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

Posts: 3623 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
♀ 27275
Member # 27275
Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Your freedom sounds so good.
I am just starting this process and it is daunting right now.

Glad to read your post and see what the future holds

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.

Posts: 3268 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Canada
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 3:03 AM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!! You are a strong woman and momma! You will of course continue getting stronger while he can continue to spiral down. Enjoy your new beginning!

Posts: 2868 | Registered: Oct 2012
♀ 27148
Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 4:53 AM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!! Enjoy your freedom and new life!

Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver

Posts: 4725 | Registered: Jan 2010
♀ 42856
Member # 42856
Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!! I'm only a bit over a month out from my dday, but I'm already looking down the road to D. I reading in this forum to help get strength to get ready for it.

I'm glad things are looking up for you! And, yes, I do believe your ex will get his sooner or later. What goes around comes around. You just keep being the bigger, better person and an awesome mama and you are going to go far!!!

Me - 43
WH - 41
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Divorce from the ass is in progress!

You can see more of my story on my blog here:

"Never give up hope and let time heal you"

Posts: 340 | Registered: Mar 2014
♀ 39139
Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 978 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: BFE
Topic Posts: 9

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