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brokenhearted76 (original poster member #39616) posted at 6:59 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Part of my nightmare is over! The divorce is final! Still a struggle dealing with the narcissistic asshat. But I am getting stronger! With a bit more emotional distance I can see how emotionally and verbally abusive he was and is. Now he openly brags about all his women, past and current. And he is on a downward spiral. I look for him to implode soon. He is going to be homeless in a week, the friend he was living with has evicted him for "coming onto" to many of his dates. He is drinking a lot more and his anger is getting way worse. He is seeing that being a "player" isn't all he thought it would be. I call it karma.
~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ XWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~
MadeOfScars ( member #42231) posted at 7:29 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Here's to your bright, bright future!
"Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t." - Steve Maraboli
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 12:42 AM on Saturday, April 26th, 2014
Congrats on being done BH76. It's so sad to watch them spiral down and wonder what the heck happened to the person we thought we married. May he get everything he deserves.
Now you...You get on with that new beginning!
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 4:57 AM on Saturday, April 26th, 2014
Congratulations! I hope that you and he BOTH get exactly what you deserve!
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
deena ( member #27275) posted at 6:18 AM on Saturday, April 26th, 2014
Congratulations!!!!
Your freedom sounds so good.
I am just starting this process and it is daunting right now.
Glad to read your post and see what the future holds
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 9:03 AM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Congratulations!! You are a strong woman and momma! You will of course continue getting stronger while he can continue to spiral down. Enjoy your new beginning!
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 10:53 AM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Congrats!!! Enjoy your freedom and new life!
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
LeftOutintheCold ( member #42856) posted at 10:32 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Congrats!!! I'm only a bit over a month out from my dday, but I'm already looking down the road to D. I reading in this forum to help get strength to get ready for it.
I'm glad things are looking up for you! And, yes, I do believe your ex will get his sooner or later. What goes around comes around. You just keep being the bigger, better person and an awesome mama and you are going to go far!!!
Me - 43
WH - 41
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Divorce from the ass is in progress!
You can see more of my story on my blog here: http://thatcraftylunchlady.com/?p=833
"Never give up hope and let time heal you"
WeepingBuddhist ( member #39139) posted at 2:08 PM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
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