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LA44 (original poster member #38384) posted at 4:02 AM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
My birthday is coming to a close - 46 years today - and I felt compelled to get in touch with all of you on SI. Firslty, thank you SI for being here for all of us. You are a blessing to me.
I thought of so many of you today in my prayer of thanks this morn for the people I have come to know as best as is possible on a cyber-site. Thought of you ((karmahappens)), blakesteele for all the prayers, sisoon, rebreather, brokensmile, bionic and catlover, SisterMShake and somanyears. Thought of Knightsbff, Jrazz, AML and rachelc. I hate to name names bc I know I will miss some but I thought of you and your kind words and encouragement over the past 14 months as that is when I joined SI - Feb. 2013.
My bday was pretty good all things considering. It was better then last year when I was having friends over and then asked them not to come and then told them to come back (the first year is tough!). But this year...my kids walked in with a painting that they have been working on with their Dad - it made me cry bc it was so heart-felt and they gave it their all. My H gave me numerous pics of our family-life and some of my favourite things. We all went out for lunch and then had a nice dinner together just the two of us, meeting a couple friends later for drinks. I went for a 3 mile walk, spoke to family and friends and my dear parents who have been with me near or far since moment one. Thank God for them!
Today was kind of like a full life in a mere 12 hours and for this I am grateful. Could my life be better. Of course. Could it be worse? No doubt. But I am good today. I am grateful for my day.
Goodnight, all.
LA44 (now 46)
Today was good. Today was fun. Tomorrow will be another one. -- Dr. Seuss
[This message edited by LA44 at 10:04 PM, April 26th (Saturday)]
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
timetraveler ( new member #40714) posted at 4:12 AM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Happy Birthday LA44!
I follow your posts and I love your honesty.
Glad you had the most important people to share your special day with, family and close friends.
Rock your 40's!!
BW-49
WH-52
M-27, 2 great kids 20's
DD#1 1/10
DD#2 8/13, same COW
When love beckons to you, follow him, though his ways are hard & steep. For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.
Kahlil Gibran
catatonic ( member #40758) posted at 5:40 AM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Happy Birthday
Glad you had a wonderful day.
Your posts always give me supporting advice.
/ days after my birthday was my DDay. I believe OW set it up that way, as WH was busy planning a surprise party for me.
I am not looking forward to this first birthday post DDay.
But hearing if your wonderful day shines hope that your can regain happier times. Enjoy your day
ItsaClimb ( member #37107) posted at 6:16 AM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Happy Birthday 
So glad you had a good day!
BS 52
Together 35 yrs, M 31 years
2 daughters 30yo(married with 2 children) & 25yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later
iwillNOT ( member #40605) posted at 7:01 AM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
I am so glad you had a good birthday, all day long, and you felt happy and grateful as you wrapped up the day
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
brokensmile322 ( member #35758) posted at 12:40 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Happy Birthday, LA! So glad it was a good day---exactly how I would choose to spend my day!
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 12:56 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Happy birthday friend.
I really enjoyed reading your thanks you have towards your parents. I vividly remember the point in time where they stepped up and where absolutely their for you....and supported your M. These are people who are of strong character.....and it shows through the person you are and at least explains part of where your courage and perseverance comes from.
They raised a beautiful woman and I am blessed for having my path cross yours.
Peace.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 7:00 AM, April 27th (Sunday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
LA44 (original poster member #38384) posted at 2:08 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
@ timetraveler, thank you for that. Rockin 40's now in session! 
@ catatonic, a positive attitude like that goes a long way each and every day but be sure to post more closer to your bday.
@Iwillnot, itsaclimb (great posts!) and brokensmile (I have some new follow up info. for you), THANK YOU!
@blakesteele - what can I say to that post? You brought tears to my eyes with that message. Good tears! Thank you.
Here's to a peaceful Sunday, all.
[This message edited by LA44 at 8:08 AM, April 27th (Sunday)]
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 2:53 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Peace and love my friend.
I am so glad you had such a wonderful day.
(((LA)))
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 3:12 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Yay ! Glad it was good!! Think of all the good that can happen in a year!!
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:13 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Happy birthday!
What a GREAT gift! A creative H and kids - wow!
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 8:31 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
What a nice post! I am new to posting but I have learned so much by 'lurking ' this past year...
the folks you mentioned as well as yourself have been great 'voices' for me on this most incredible journey
Thank you and happy birthday...from a fellow Taurus!
me-BS him-WS
" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."
forgivingnow ( member #33549) posted at 8:41 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
You are such an inspiration. Rock this year!!
Me-BS 57
FWH-57
M 37yrs.
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yours
LA44 (original poster member #38384) posted at 9:06 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Went to church today and one of the last things Fr. said (new, young guy who seems pretty great) was that one thing he knows for sure is that we can get by so much better with the strength, support and encouragement of others. I immediately thought of SI.
Happy birthday to you too, hopefull77....Taurus' are stubborn (persistent).... but loyal!
What a nice thing to write forgivingnow.
Thank you, all!
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
OnAnIsland ( member #34319) posted at 9:47 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou
AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 12:08 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
Sounds like a fabulous birthday LA!! Thanks for sharing that with us. Much love to you and yours and I wish you many happy years to come.
Birthday hugs!! (((LA)))
[This message edited by AML04 at 6:09 PM, April 27th (Sunday)]
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 12:14 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
So glad to see the happy post, and thinking about you! I hope it is the beginning of a fantastic year.
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
meplusfour ( member #38958) posted at 12:20 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."
catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 12:41 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
Happy Birthday hon! So glad you had a good day; you deserve it! 
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled
justinpaintoday ( member #42858) posted at 1:03 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.
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