Anyway, maybe some of that background info may be applicable to what I say when I tell her. I would tell her that I'll be in touch only once the house sells as her name is on a couple of the services here as well as the mortgage (though I got the house in the D). Beyond that, I have nothing left to ever discuss with her. Part of me wants to send something almost coldly short, like an email with a subject of "Divorce is final" with no text in the body. Another part of me wants to take a final petty parting shot at her that she may or may not even get, like "now it's "official," not that you waited for this anyway '" or "you got what you wanted from me for the last time." I know it won't do any good and may prompt a reply intended to hurt me.
So, for those who've been in a situation similar to mine who have finalized, how did you tell your ex it was done?
Now my STBX and I will have lots of contact post D, because of our DD, but I am so looking forward to not have to have some of these D conversations anymore.
MOS, I think you should keep it short and non descriptive. I think that will be more powerful than anything else you could say. Let us know what you decide.
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Contact her when you need to. Otherwise, don't.
[This message edited by solus sto at 11:32 AM, April 27th (Sunday)]
Just send a copy of the decree through the U.S.Mail.
Just a show of indifference.
Don't listen to me right now though, having one of those days.
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So, why do I even ask? I guess it's just my way of reconciling that the finalization of this divorce, what all it stands for, is something so unceremonious. This is the official dissolution of what was once a life shared by 2 people. At the same time, not much changes tomorrow. This is just the state of Texas catching up with the times. we stopped being "we" months ago.
I may not say anything at all...she should get something in the mail anyway. She'll figure it out. After all, at this point, I don't owe her a damn thing.
Afterwards, I think I should tell her
I would tell her that I'll be in touch only once the house sells as her name is on a couple of the services here as well as the mortgage (though I got the house in the D).
Beyond that, I have nothing left to ever discuss with her.
I guess I'm lucky that this isn't contentious.
She couldn't even be bothered to acknowledge receipt of the petition
I know it won't do any good and may prompt a reply intended to hurt me.
As you've indicated above, she won't care and it will do no good.
Waste zero effort to inform her.
Copy, paste, send.
No other words are necessary.
You're killin' me JJ
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final petty parting shot
Dude, NO. Highroad. Always.
She will figure it out.
She's been fired. That's that.
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Everything is as it should be.