In other news, I am a yard badass. It looks awesome out there.
Can someone bring me some Aleve? I can't move.
I have to admit though, while I was doing all this stuff I was stewing on how I shouldn't HAVE to be doing this alone. I shouldn't HAVE to be taking care of the house, the kids, the finances, working full time, etc and I realized I am in a new stage - resentment. Another divorced friend called in the middle of her meltdown to express the exact same thing - her resentment at being left to handle everything alone. It sucks, and I hate it.
resentment at being left to handle everything alone.
This is probably the last issue to linger for me. I did not sign up to be a single person homeowner. Every time there's an issue with the house or yard, it pushes that button for me. I'm getting much better at shrugging it off, though. I just keep reminding myself how much better off I am now, despite having to deal with crap I don't want to do.
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect
Seriously. With that said, I've been doing all of the yard work and maintenance for years, and I'm tired of it also.
I thought the same thing as I laid under a farm tractor for the annual oil change. I'm just tired of it.
I'm sure the yard looks awesome
I won't feel any extra work.
Uh,....my WXH was such a lazy POS that the only thing that changed when he left was....less laundry.
I actually used to do all the outside work as well but now I am working more hours so just don't have time to do it anymore. I splurged and got someone in to the mowing and edging. It's well worth the $30 it costs me and saves me 3 or so hours.
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Good for you for getting that handled!!! I'll bet the yard looks great.
I totally hear you in the doing things alone issue. It isn't that I can't do it, it's that I wanted someone to share this stuff - LIFE- with.
I hope you treated yourself to a cold drink while you lounged in your lawn chair admiring your work.