My WH and I are in separation working towards divorce. Short recap, he did not want to work on R, has reconnected with OP, and I'm trying to do the 180 approach and let go.
Part of this is feeling like its so unfair that I now have to leave the kids on his nights, miss them on holidays, and figure out vacations when I can't be with them.
My brother has asked me and kids to a fall break Hawaii trip. I asked WH if we can go five days so he can see kids rest of the time, I'm thinking what's fair. His response was do what you want, as I might take them somewhere another time. This statement makes me think he is planning a 10 day vacation somewhere.
I am freaking, I don't think I could handle the pain of not being with kids for more than half of a vacation week or holiday.
What has worked for others and time with kids? I've been the stay at home mom, we have taken an adult vacation now and then, but I'm having a hard time thinking of the time away.
[This message edited by Acer0112 at 8:04 PM, April 27th (Sunday)]