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justinpaintoday posted 4/28/2014 07:17 AM

Hi today is my 19 year anniversary. Please pray for me to b strong as i am feeling very somber

ThrownAwayTwice posted 4/28/2014 07:27 AM

((Justinpaintoday))
Today I my anniversary too. First since this all went down...
My heart goes out to you.

justinpaintoday posted 4/28/2014 07:34 AM

U too

freeatlast72 posted 4/28/2014 07:52 AM

((justinpaintoday))

Try to stay busy, it will pass. The first one is always the hardest.

Mine was last Thursday, I stayed busy with work, daughter and went out for a drink with girlfriends.

Thinking of you....

SBB posted 4/28/2014 08:49 AM

My rock bottom was the 10th anniversary of our meeting - 3m after S. I can't imagine what 19 years would feel like.

The firsts are the very hardest - we S on our 8th wedding anniversary so the 9th was a celebration of the end of my year of firsts.

Be gentle with yourself - do what you feel like doing. If it's staying in and crying your heart out do it, if it's going out and being around those you love and who make you laugh do it.

There's no right or wrong here. Just know it won't always hurt this much.

(((JIPT)))

justinpaintoday posted 4/28/2014 09:34 AM

Thanks. I can tell you I feel blessed for the 18 good years and pained by the final 1. I will struggle detaching today but am trying to avoid texting and limiting contact.

WeepingBuddhist posted 4/28/2014 10:34 AM

Keep counting your blessings.

You've made it this far, you can make it through today.

norabird posted 4/28/2014 11:50 AM

(((((JIPT))))

I will be thinking of you today in hopes of sending a little strength. Mourning what was lost is fully appropriate and healthy. Just remember that tomorrow will be a new day.

Abbondad posted 4/28/2014 11:55 AM

It's really hard, I know. My XW called me crying this past December on our 11th anniversary, hinting at making amends. It just made me sadder. A whole life thrown away.

But I moved past it and you will too. I'm sure it will get less difficult every year, as "deaths" always do. Stay strong. You did all you could do; you fought the good fight.

justinpaintoday posted 4/28/2014 12:04 PM

Will need a 2x4. Sent text stating i had no regrets. Shit. Only one this will hurt is me. Wow didnt think today would hirt tjis wicked. Its a stinger

Gemini71 posted 4/28/2014 12:56 PM

My 19 Anniversary is next month, a week before our next court date. I had really hoped to have this resolved before then so I wouldn't have to go through this.

Sending prayers and positive thoughts to you. I just hope I can do as well as you are when my turn comes around.

MadeOfScars posted 4/28/2014 13:02 PM

Mine was back in March. I gave crickets and also received them. It's just another day now.

The firsts always are hardest, but like those before, you'll make it through this one. I went out with some co-workers after work on my "anniversary" and had a great time. I barely thought about it. Then again, I had already put valentine's day and her birthday behind me (both of which I didn't handle as well) so believe us all when we say this - it does get easier.

Sorry you're hurting today. Try to find something you want to do to take your mind off what today is. Continue to post here as well.