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trying1 posted 4/28/2014 10:57 AM
I have had a rough couple days with constant thoughts about the A. It is putting me into a spiral of sadness. I am trying everything I have to pull myself out. Meditation, trying to control my thoughts, trying not to dwell and obsess, focusing on the good parts of my life, but I can't seem to get out.
Does anyone have any suggestions....things that work for you?
Chinadoll30 posted 4/28/2014 12:17 PM
Working out. Seeing friends. Buying myself something. Are you near a large body of water? I think seeing the ocean can soothe the soul.
myeverafter posted 4/28/2014 12:27 PM
I have been decluttering the house and organizing. I don't know why, but it is helping.
Skan posted 4/28/2014 17:41 PM
Yeah, I found that making order out of chaos, even the chaos of housekeeping, was soothing.Working with my hands, keeping my body moving.
RomanticInnocenc posted 4/28/2014 17:56 PM
I know exactly how you feel! I'm a reader and dreamer by nature (dreamer part has not helped me out during the aftermath of the affair, I can tell you!) and I resisted reading for some time thinking that I wouldn't be able to concentrate, and sometime I do wander off the book and into my own thoughts, but overall, getting myself into a book has helped me a lot lately. I've started reading the Divergent series and just being able to escape reality for a while and live in someone else's shoes has helped me to have some mental rest. I've found it has also helped me to keep the barrier up when I'm not reading, as soon as my mind starts going to that place I try and switch to what the characters in my book are up to at the moment! Hope you find something! :-)
Derailed1 posted 4/28/2014 19:19 PM
There's only two things that work for me:
1. Spending a day with WS reconnecting
2. I asked him to write me a letter that I could look at every time I started to obsess. Sometimes reading that letter helps.
rachelc posted 4/28/2014 19:20 PM
Read my post in books about The Artists Way. Three pages of morning papers, everyday
peoplepleaser posted 4/29/2014 19:45 PM
Derailed1, the letter idea is brilliant! I'm going to ask WS for the same. Thank you!!!!