"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I am doing a diy divorce but not in Michigan either. It is a bit hard, confusing, having to have direct contact is really awful, keeps the pain going, new hurts are pretty consistent.
So far, it has been okay. I have only had 1 court date for temporary orders.
If we can come to an agreement before our next date, June 10th, 90 days after I filed, it will be final. I do not see that happening. He lied on his financials and doesn't think it is fair that he should have to pay for a house he does not live in.
Yup, he thinks life is fair???
He makes 3 times what I do, our house is under water, no equity and the mortgage and title are in my name.
Not sure how this will play out but the next step, if we do not have an agreement is mediation and then a process called, Grand Masters.
The whole thing so far has cost $400. I cannot afford a lawyer. I would take a cheap, bad lawyer over doing this myself but even that is not an option.
I will let you know how it plays out.
When did I know that I had to file, that there was no other choice?
Dday #2 and time. I did not want this, I still had feelings for him (not rational!) When the thought of him touching me made me want to vomit. Time and distance, gaining clarity of what my life has been with him and realizing that I would rather be alone than be married to a man that gives crumbs occassionally but is mostly abusive. When I realized that I have spent the last 12 years trying to avoid triggering his rage. When I realized that I had lost myself.
This is hard, it hurts, it is so very unfair and cruel.
I guess you just have to come to the point where you love and value yourself enough to realize that you really do deserve to be treated with respect, kindness and truth.
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
I attempted R, he was a lie