We are having a family counseling session this week because the kids were confused after WH's vague description of our trial separation moving to formal separation and probably D. I had WH do last talk since I thought we agreed to say, divorce possible, and that daddy was dating.
Well, those two things were not mentioned. WH still claims he's not dating, and doesn't want to mention affair, and I guess is having a hard time admitting D is probably where we are headed. I do not want to be the messenger anymore since this is not my choice.
Our family counselor suggested to say dating, be as up front with details as age appropriate because if they hear wind of the A they will feel betrayed and more angry than dealing with the honesty and anger now. Kids are 11, 13.
So how do parents tell the kids more details? I also would like to say its daddy's choice to not continue the marriage, I just want them to know the truth, I am here to consider R, I'm not giving up, but when one person isn't willing to try, or claims he has tried for 20 years , it's not possible. I know we should be a united front, but it's not what I want or feel.