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Tripletrouble posted 4/29/2014 21:22 PM

A while back there was a thread for those of us with poor relationships with our mothers. My own relationship was filled with anger, frustration, hurt, and guilt. In my early 20's I moved away and disengaged. I always had so much guilt. Today, almost a year into IC we landed directly on my mommy issues. My astute therapist said all of what she has heard points to my mother being borderline and she encourages me to minimize contact. It felt like a sack of bricks coming off my back. At long last a professional has acknowledged how hurtful it would be to me to keep letting her hack away at me with her histrionics and guilt trips. Yay! I'm validated.

MovingUpward posted 4/30/2014 12:59 PM

I am glad that you are finding peace and that is leading to healing.

tushnurse posted 4/30/2014 13:08 PM

Isn't it a wonderful feeling when someone with the degree, or expertise can back up what you have believed to be true????

I so understand what you are saying and where you are coming from.

((((and strength))))

Emotionalhell posted 4/30/2014 19:06 PM

I too understand where you are coming from. Just because they are related doesn't mean we have to be in an unhealthy relationship with them.

norabird posted 5/1/2014 00:04 AM

((((Triple trouble)))

That feeling of validation in IC is so, so sweet. I will never forget the feeling I had the first time I saw a good IC who said about a past relationship with a suicidal ex: 'That must have been really hard.' Those little affirmations somehow give us permission to acknowledge the weight and put it down. I'm glad you're moving toward a healthier place with your relationship to your mom because of it!!

Jrazz posted 5/1/2014 00:15 AM

I'm sure I participated in that thread. I'm so glad you have an IC that is helping you sort through this.

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