I see an NPD topic in I can Relate but it's not touching on what experiences the BS went through. I'm looking for others who experienced bizarre, confusing, and hurtful behaviors . I have long suspected something was wrong. Here are some examples
Rage not just anger but a whole other level think umpire screaming in the face of a child or her spouse
Over the top exaggerated drama chaos to simple things
Paranoia and feeling slights over misperceptions or even if perceived correctly it was blown up into something much worse
Punishment never fit the crime..silent treatments, verbally demeaned, put down ,
Stealing ..she would often steal and have a smile on her face. I realized it was becoming a habit and eventually she either stopped telling me or she continued as I made it clear it had to stop.
Depression or sadness
Angry over the smallest things
Gossipy/finger pointing
Charming and beautiful on outside but cold and mean inside
To this day when tries to be kind I know that is manipulation followed up by horrible texts over benign small issues with exclamations, you make me sick, you always, you nevers,
Gaslighting and projections even when confronted with the true sequence of events as she even wrote them ....no apology, no recognition a mistake was made but it's right there
Is attracted to drama, sickness and deaths she lights up when the subjects are these
Multiple major chronic illnesses
Chronic history of strong pain medicines
Extremely dependent on parents especially the mom
Short tempered, agitated and impatient easily
Would take on projects and never finish despite support
unable to budget, overspends especially during angry periods
Wants adoration which is normal but does not return it or at minimum respect or be kind
Attacks and pounces on things especially if perceives as a competition or slight...
Emotionally immature and black and white thinking no forest through the trees
Immediately found a boyfriend and told the kids who are young
Disparages me still despite decree and RO trying to prevent it
Always in motion can't seem to have quiet times
Claims no need for introspection as it was a failed marriage due to blaming me for the problems
Had to jump up always when a phone rang never could let the phone go yo voice mail or answering machines
Most times could not raise kids on her own alone always getting help, no alone time
Mocking behaviors sometimes breaking into mean spirited oddly speaking condescending tirades
Bully at times and st others like a school girl who needs saving
Abandonment issues
You are either good or bad no in between
Impulsive
Very impatient
I found myself often having to justify, defend, explain etc. physically and mentally draining
When with doctors thinks she's one very arrogant nature has had doctors tell her she speaks like a doctor and not a patient and to speak to them like a patient
When with Lawyer thinks she is one
Didn't follow her doctors orders ended back in the hospital more times than I can count
OCD tendencies if something is on her mind everyone has to stop what they are doing even if a boundary drawn plows through it. You could say I'm in the middle of something or with the kids and it's this will only take a minute
Multiple calls to work over nothing
Multiple calls again over nothing if not out with a group, or my family
Vindictive and wants to get back at people lies and spreads rumors
Aggressive mom and dad dad is knight in shining armor who has lifted his hands, his daughter can do no wrong
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[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 7:29 AM, May 1st (Thursday)]