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User Topic: Dday #2?
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Or trickle truth, I don't really know which. But I am just sick.

Affair I knew about I discovered almost four years ago, and we have done a good job (I thought) or working through it. But now I have new information and I don't know what to do.

About 10 years ago, when I was 8 months pregnant with my youngest child, I found a nude pic of a woman that both WH and I knew saved on our computer. I confronted him, and he said that she was having an affair with a coworker, and he had stupidly let them use our house. At the time I let myself be convinced it was true, and I let it go. This is a woman who works in a similar field to both of us, and we still see every great once in a while. Well, recently she applied to work for me. We went through the hiring process and she did not pass our testing, so she was not included in the hiring. But having to deal with her so much brought the whole thing back to mind, so I needed to know. I sent her a FB message saying that WH had told me what went on between him and her. When it orignally happened, I did call her about it, and she went along with his story. But I messaged her and told her he confessed what really happened. She said that she was glad because she had felt terrible all these years not telling me the truth.

Both her story and his story at this point are that she came over to my house while I was at work, they talked, and he took a couple of semi nude pics and that was it. I am not sure obviously what happened, but this seems highly unlikely to me. Why would a man have a half naked woman in his house and not have sex with her?

I am just sick over it. I am also just sick over the fact that in 2010 when I discovered he EA I specifically asked him about this incident and he stuck with his original story. Now I dont know what to do.

I honestly thought we had come so far, and done so much to repair out marriage. But he has still been dishonest with me

I am pessimistically optimistic

Me- 44
WH- 37
Married 15 years, together 18. Two kids together, boys age 11 and 12.
I never knew that something could be this painful and not kill you.

Posts: 821 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Southeast Texas
♀ 30314
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

there's really only one way to go with this - polygraph. Maybe others will have a better idea.

I'm so sorry (Deb))

[This message edited by rachelc at 2:23 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)]

Posts: 7613 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Highly unlikely is an understatement. Trust your gut.


"And above all things, never think that you're not good enough yourself. A man should never think that. My belief is that in life people will take you at your own reckoning."
- I. Asimov

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