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sadcountryboy posted 4/30/2014 16:19 PM

Well, it has come to that point. I'm 5 weeks out from her leaving and 6 weeks out from D-day. I'm actually holding up pretty well. Obviously, I still think about it all the time but I have moments in the day where I don't. I'm eating, doing household chores, played golf the past 2 weekends, and doing yard work on the weekends. The yard work sucks sometimes cause we both enjoyed it and did it together.

However, in our talks, all she keeps saying is "I don't know what I want". Really? Well, let me go ahead and knock your ass off the fence. Cause all that tells me is she is still seeing him or seeing someone else. Or at the very least still foggy. Whatever. We don't have kids. Already split everything. House and my car are in my name and brought to the marriage. She'll owe me half of a cc balance and has to refinance her car in her name and get insurance. Luckily, I didn't buy a house I couldn't afford by myself. Just in case something happened. Wasn't expecting this.

I'm starting to realize that this is an act that I probably will never get past. Better to cut ties now and get on with my life.

What sucks though is we live in NC. For those that don't know, we have to be separated for 1 year before we can file for divorce. Even with infidelity. Oh well. Time to get on with it.

Skan posted 4/30/2014 17:20 PM

Get that clock ticking, then, and make sure that your separation agreement is all tied up so you can file in one year and one minute!

stronger08 posted 4/30/2014 17:44 PM

Good for you brother. Don't take any shit from her. Be prepared for the inevitable phony emotional breakdown when the OM tosses her dumb ass to the curb. All of a sudden you will become the only true love of her life once again. But we all know that is just a lie to make her life comfortable once again. Hang tough my man !!!

sadcountryboy posted 4/30/2014 17:47 PM

Got that right Skan. Been doing 180 and starting to heal. I usually listen to country music but lately I've pulled out my heavy metal stuff. It helps channel my anger when it comes up on me. She brought nothing to the marriage as far as things and stuff went. And now she's leaving with nothing but a few things I agreed she could take. It'll be a bumpy ride at times but I'll get through it.

sadcountryboy posted 4/30/2014 17:53 PM

You da man stronger08. Don't worry, I'm prepared for the emotional bullshit to happen at some point. Not buying it. Can't buy it. Should have thought of that before you spread your legs for some dickwad. Not just once, but for 6 months. Oh yeah, he's married. And not going to leave his wife. Have fun with that.

Forgot to mention, I had a full std check on Monday. Waiting on the results still. If she gave me some shit I'm gonna be very angry.

5454real posted 4/30/2014 18:12 PM

good job kicking ass and taking numbers brother. what a BS answer that she doesn't know what she wants.

I'm glad you do.

did you ever tell the OM'S BW?

sadcountryboy posted 4/30/2014 18:27 PM

did you ever tell the OM'S BW?

Forgot about that. Yeah that was one of the kickers too. She won't tell me his full name. I know a first name and that he used to work with her. She has been protective of him and her reason is she already fucked up one family. No need to fuck up another. I called bullshit but she won't give it up. I suppose my lawyer could find out? Anyway, the fact she won't tell me just added another check mark to the "I need to be done with this woman" checklist. What a piece of work this girl turned out to be. She's also still blame shifting and blaming all of it on the marriage. Reading this forum made me realize that yeah I still have balls. I just need to let em hang. Screw her.