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User Topic: Still wearing the pants...
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He wants me to pay him spousal support.

But he will give up the spousal support if I don't make him pay child support.

In other words, I am going to support one child, or another.

He can't claim I took his balls if he doesn't want them.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 499 | Registered: Nov 2013
TrustedHer
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Most states have a formula for child support, and it isn't really too negotiable.

Have you consulted a lawyer?
Do you make so much more money than him that you'd have to pay spousal support?

Is he a stupid shit?

Know your rights, and go into this with eyes open. He can want anything he wants to, but he can only have what the court will allow.


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5218 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes. I do make way more than him.

He could only get a little temp support but wouldn't be able to sustain it past the merit hearing.

But I am 7 years younger than him and a taking care of his child. Have some pride, man.

And the Ls are involved and talking and negotiating and doing the thing Ls do that cost a bazillion dollars an hour.

[This message edited by littlefoggy at 11:06 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)]


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 499 | Registered: Nov 2013
SBB
♀ 35229
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang on - if he has to pay CS I don't understand how HE could be eligible to receive SS. What would be the of that?

SS is rare in Australia so it isn't a concept I'm familiar with.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5734 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
littlefoggy
♀ 41429
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have primary custody of DD. Therefore he would pay CS.

I make way more than him, therefore would need to support him through our separation: thus SS.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 499 | Registered: Nov 2013
SBB
♀ 35229
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Default  Posted: 3:57 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^ that sucks. It makes no sense. Work out the numbers - my guess is CS goes for longer than SS and would therefore be a bigger amount. That's why he is offering it.

What does your L say?


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5734 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Caretaker1
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you can pay him temp maintenance, but since you already have primary custody, he should pay the percentage. I agree with you, he's not the primary. His view probably is you make way more. When children are involved, it's so much harder.

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littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 7:33 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I told my L I would negotiate with the child care cost but not the CS. And only on a temporary basis.

Fingers crossed...


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 499 | Registered: Nov 2013
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