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littlefoggy posted 4/30/2014 22:56 PM

He wants me to pay him spousal support.

But he will give up the spousal support if I don't make him pay child support.

In other words, I am going to support one child, or another.

He can't claim I took his balls if he doesn't want them.

TrustedHer posted 4/30/2014 23:01 PM

Most states have a formula for child support, and it isn't really too negotiable.

Have you consulted a lawyer?
Do you make so much more money than him that you'd have to pay spousal support?

Is he a stupid shit?

Know your rights, and go into this with eyes open. He can want anything he wants to, but he can only have what the court will allow.

littlefoggy posted 4/30/2014 23:05 PM

Yes. I do make way more than him.

He could only get a little temp support but wouldn't be able to sustain it past the merit hearing.

But I am 7 years younger than him and a taking care of his child. Have some pride, man.

And the Ls are involved and talking and negotiating and doing the thing Ls do that cost a bazillion dollars an hour.

[This message edited by littlefoggy at 11:06 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)]

SBB posted 4/30/2014 23:05 PM

Hang on - if he has to pay CS I don't understand how HE could be eligible to receive SS. What would be the of that?

SS is rare in Australia so it isn't a concept I'm familiar with.

littlefoggy posted 4/30/2014 23:08 PM

I have primary custody of DD. Therefore he would pay CS.

I make way more than him, therefore would need to support him through our separation: thus SS.

SBB posted 5/1/2014 03:57 AM

^^ that sucks. It makes no sense. Work out the numbers - my guess is CS goes for longer than SS and would therefore be a bigger amount. That's why he is offering it.

What does your L say?

Caretaker1 posted 5/1/2014 07:16 AM

If you can pay him temp maintenance, but since you already have primary custody, he should pay the percentage. I agree with you, he's not the primary. His view probably is you make way more. When children are involved, it's so much harder.

littlefoggy posted 5/1/2014 07:33 AM

I told my L I would negotiate with the child care cost but not the CS. And only on a temporary basis.

Fingers crossed...