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He wants me to pay him spousal support.

But he will give up the spousal support if I don't make him pay child support.

In other words, I am going to support one child, or another.

He can't claim I took his balls if he doesn't want them.

Most states have a formula for child support, and it isn't really too negotiable.

Have you consulted a lawyer?
Do you make so much more money than him that you'd have to pay spousal support?

Is he a stupid shit?

Know your rights, and go into this with eyes open. He can want anything he wants to, but he can only have what the court will allow.

Yes. I do make way more than him.

He could only get a little temp support but wouldn't be able to sustain it past the merit hearing.

But I am 7 years younger than him and a taking care of his child. Have some pride, man.

And the Ls are involved and talking and negotiating and doing the thing Ls do that cost a bazillion dollars an hour.

[This message edited by littlefoggy at 11:06 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)]

Hang on - if he has to pay CS I don't understand how HE could be eligible to receive SS. What would be the of that?

SS is rare in Australia so it isn't a concept I'm familiar with.

I have primary custody of DD. Therefore he would pay CS.

I make way more than him, therefore would need to support him through our separation: thus SS.

^^ that sucks. It makes no sense. Work out the numbers - my guess is CS goes for longer than SS and would therefore be a bigger amount. That's why he is offering it.

What does your L say?

If you can pay him temp maintenance, but since you already have primary custody, he should pay the percentage. I agree with you, he's not the primary. His view probably is you make way more. When children are involved, it's so much harder.

I told my L I would negotiate with the child care cost but not the CS. And only on a temporary basis.

Fingers crossed...