Guy got fired Friday. Which, was shocking because he had 3-4x more students than any other instructor. He announced he'd been fired and a lot of people were all "oh no, I'm so sorry. how could that do that." Understandable. I said it too, and thanked him for helping me get in better shape.
Now, there is this huge backlash against the Y for firing him. I know what incident was the final straw, and yes, he was an asshole. I know a couple other things too. But, I don't know the whole story. Well, yesterday, he writes a post like "fuck the Y, fuck the directors. You are lucky i'm a nice guy or you'd be on the floor. How dare you fucking disrespect me like that? i'm a veteran. You can't do this to me, and this isn't the last you've seen of me. I know you assholes are reading this."
This is the....4th? 5th? Gym he's been fired from in the last year. Every time there is some big post about how everyone hates him because he's so successful and so great at what he does. Lots of stuff about "haters".
So now, there are a ton of people trying to get him hired back, writing petitions, etc. My friends are pressuring me to sign it, write letters, etc. I think after that last post, he won't be hired back, no matter what. Everybody is directly against the director, who has been nothing but awesome to me and the kids. I'm getting e-mails about how anyone who doesn't quit is a traitor and a backstabber. The Guy sent me a message today that was "Hey, I hope you will help support truth, handwork, and veterans and tell the director you are withdrawing your membership if they don't let me come back." About 50 people are planning to show up at his class time tomorrow and just sit there and ignore whoever they bring in. He is definitely encouraging it.
It has been so hard for me to make friends, and I had a few who are now involved in this. So, my options seem to be 1. take part in this, that I don't even think I agree with, and alienate myself from the rest of the staff (who i like!) 2.Ignore (or don't ignore but don't help and explain why) and lose my friends
I'm feeling very pressured and kind of harassed. What would you do?
(right now, I'm leaning toward just ignoring everything. Continuing to go to a gym I like, that has stuff for the kids, and if I lose the friends, I guess I'm no worse off than I was a year ago)
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
Nobody knows what really went on and IMO if he has been let go from 5 other places, something has to be going on.
I would avoid the drama, go to the classes you enjoy and be comfortable knowing you followed your belief.
Nobody has the right to bully you into an action you disagree with.
[This message edited by Bobbi_sue at 10:06 AM, May 1st (Thursday)]
If the guy has been fired from 4 or 5 gyms this year........ that says it all to me.
Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.
It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.
As for your friends, I would say, I liked his class, but there is an opportunity now for someone who may even be better.
Let the smoke clear and then go back. If people ask where you were, tell them you don't do drama.
If you lose friends because you do not want to join his drama then they were not real friends. This is your life and you have to stand up for what you believe in and not follow the herd. I know that you are a very strong person so you can follow your own beliefs and be proud of doing it.
The Y is supposed to be a positive environment. If his behaviour was negative regardless of how great his class is, then he deserved to be fired. Workplaces require a certain amount of decorum. Being an asshole won't cut it.
I would stay out it. If questioned, I would tell people that the Y in general has treated you and the kids well. Since you don't know both sides of the story you don't feel comfortable making a judgement on the situation. Its easy to judge based on what we want personally, its much harder to view facts on both sides or withhold judgement because we don't know everything.
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Personally I would disengage for a bit. Stay away from the Y for a week or so, and block this douche from your FB.
Thats a good plan. I won't even be in town next week, plus, if they are all boycotting the Y I guess I won't run in to anyone there. definitely not going tomorrow.
I would stay out it. If questioned, I would tell people that the Y in general has treated you and the kids well. Since you don't know both sides of the story you don't feel comfortable making a judgement on the situation.
Also good advice.
Even my husband and I got into a disagreement about this! He loves the guy. I really don't, I think the Y was right. I just liked being able to get in such a good workout by 9am.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Most places of employment follow a set of protocols before terminating an employee, otherwise they can be sued. Verbal warnings, written warnings etc all need to be documented before terminating an employee. I doubt they did this lightly.
People don't get fired 4-5x in A YEAR for doing nothing....
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
You are going to look like a genius when they end up back at the Y in 2 months.