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Klove posted 5/1/2014 11:23 AM

I had parent-teacher visitation at my school last night. There until 8. A big group went out for a drink after- which is very typical as the group is really social.
While out stbxwh texts and says "do you have a sec to talk?"
I text "not really- is it an emergency?" And he texts "no" so I text "ok- what's up?" And he texts "call me"
Grrrrr.
So I text "I'm out having a drink with work people- can it wait until tomorrow?"
Cue the ridiculous text blast. Then crickets from me. Then about 10 mins later. "I'm sorry klove. I shouldn't have been snarky and you have every right to enjoy your time. This is just really hard for me. It really hurts."

Oh- I'm sorry. Is it hard for you to see me doing something other than sit at home wallowing and crying over you? Pardon me for- ahem- LIVING!

What is up with that??????
Are they all that selfish? I don't want you- but I don't want you to have any fun without me?
Um, sorry!

[This message edited by Klove at 11:24 AM, May 1st (Thursday)]

kiki1 posted 5/1/2014 11:27 AM

Too bad for him.

Hope you had a good time with your coworkers.

hugs,,,,

SBB posted 5/1/2014 11:35 AM

Right on cue. I got the "it's so hard for me" and puppy dog eyes whenever I came back to the house. In house S meant he could corner me wherever, whenever because he needed to talk or tell me something about his day.

All the while I'm slowly dying on the floor.

When I stopped those chats he picked fights. WHO ARE YOU SEEING??? I'd respond that it was none of his business and we'd get into a screaming match. I would barely sleep from the stress and tension and I could hear him snoring his drunken head off at the other end of the house.

This is another Chapter on the Cheaters Handbook entitled "Wah Wah Boo Whoo - Poor Widdle Me".

FTG !!

Don't tell him what you're doing or with who.
He's no longer entitled to that info. If he says no emergency then crickets.

Vulcanized posted 5/1/2014 12:00 PM

Is it hard for you to see me doing something other than sit at home wallowing and crying over you?

Yes, yes it is. As the BS, your job is to wait like a beaten dog, dontchaknow?!?

I got the "it's so hard for me" and puppy dog eyes

Y'all are lucky. I got screamed at on a daily basis, called the forbidden around here word ("c"), accused of having an A, and once, slapped around.

FTG! Lousy cheating sons of bitches.

Are they all that selfish? I don't want you- but I don't want you to have any fun without me?

Yup. That's how a good Plan B, er, ah, BS, acts.

justinpaintoday posted 5/1/2014 12:04 PM

Vunc: Well said and agreed. My WW asks if I have a girlfriend every other day. She says she don;t care but come on really?

Great....selfish and now crazy.

MadeOfScars posted 5/1/2014 12:15 PM

So, when my ex-wife FINALLY came to get the rest of her shit out of (what is now legally) my house, it just happened to be perfect timing that the SI G2G was going on that weekend. I didn't have to see her - my mom and sis manned the front on my behalf. I was very vague about what I was doing that weekend with her, just that I'd not be home that night. "Oh, what are you doing?" Me: "meeting up with some friends." Her: "oh." I didn't think much of it.

So, apparently at one point during the move, she asked my sister where I was. Her response was something like "not sure, he's staying in a hotel with some friends, or a friend, IDK." Apparently my ex's face was "telling."

Whalers11 posted 5/1/2014 12:37 PM

You should have given him crickets after he said it was not an emergency.

suckstobeme posted 5/1/2014 12:43 PM

For about 5 months after we separated, my exwh would call the kids to say goodnight. My kids were little and didn't have their own phones so he would call my cell. I usually just handed the phone over to them.

One night, I was out at a charity event and my mom was watching them. My phone rang and without even looking, I answered. He seemed surprised to hear my voice and said, "Hi. I just wanted to say goodnight to the kids." I said, "Well, I'm sorry, but I'm not home." It was a week night so he sounded surprised at that as well.

After that, the good night calls stopped. In fact, my kids never got a phone call from him on my cell again unless he texted me first to ask if it was a good time to call.

DepressedDaddy posted 5/1/2014 12:43 PM

Come on Klove, don't you know that they hurt as much as we do?

So happy to hear that you were able to have a good time out with friends. You deserve it. He didn't and still doesn't deserve you.

BTW, His new nickname is Buttercup

Nature_Girl posted 5/1/2014 12:47 PM

Gemini71 posted 5/1/2014 12:52 PM

Here's one for your stbxwh.

[This message edited by Gemini71 at 12:52 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]

Klove posted 5/1/2014 14:18 PM

Y'all make me laugh. :)
Buttercup Sniffles Mcfucktool appears to be losing his cool.

GabyBaby posted 5/1/2014 14:31 PM

You should have given him crickets after he said it was not an emergency.

I agree with Whalers.

So I text "I'm out having a drink with work people-

This is no longer any of his business.
A better response would have been crickets or "I'm busy right now. Since it isn't an emergency, I'll get back when I've got the time."

kg201 posted 5/1/2014 14:44 PM

You should have handed the phone to the coworker with the deepest voice, and had him/her mess with buttercup.

Deep voice: yup...we have your X at a club in the meat packing district. (Cupping the phone and yelling to no one, "no no no. Fill Klove's glass up with Larry's Leather Tamer".)
Klove (yelling back): make it a double!

GabyBaby posted 5/1/2014 14:45 PM

^^^

Klove posted 5/1/2014 15:01 PM

^^^ omg.

Sadly- I did think about calling him back as we were in a loud sports bar with plenty o' gents all around

Crickets from here on in- but I fucking felt like letting him know I have a life too that doesn't revolve around him!

Nature_Girl posted 5/1/2014 15:16 PM

The good people of this forum strongly advised me (in other words, 2x4'd me about the head & shoulders) that I needed to nix my ex's control of me post separation. I had to not be home a couple of times and even not tell my kids what I was up to a couple of times when they were with him, just to finally break him of the habit of knowing what I was doing at all times.

It is not easy to break free of their control, and it's even harder to break ourselves of bad habits, such as oversharing & Pavlovian-ish divulging of information simply because we are asked.

Klove posted 5/1/2014 15:22 PM

Understood. Will from now on crickets...
But I'm going to enjoy that 1 and only jab, ok?

one2ndchance posted 5/1/2014 16:05 PM

Did he have the kids?

Even if it's work related, you don't want him knowing where you are or what you're doing if you had to get a sitter.

Klove posted 5/1/2014 16:57 PM

he had them

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