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cryingdaily (original poster member #7276) posted at 10:00 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Oh boy. Here goes.
If you remember NOGuy (New Old Guy) you might remember that things started out a little rocky.
He was very needy and very clingy and I am neither of those things.
Well, after some ups and downs, he has eased up a lot and things got better.
It's been two years now that we've been dating and we ran into a new issue. He wants to get M. It's not that I don't want to, but I've been M twice and, obviously, those didn't work out. He, being a traditional type of guy, wants to do things the traditional way.
I knew it was my "stuff" (FOO stuff, past relationship stuff) that was keeping me from moving forward. I realized I needed to look past that and decide if I was ready to plan a future with another person or if I was ready to accept the fact that I would remain alone. While I'm a little freaked out about that prospect (and yes I've been honest about all of this with him) I decided I was ready to move forward and said yes.
So, it looks like I'm engaged.
He is going to sell his house and move into mine. We decided his is just too big and expensive and quite honestly, I want to do more things than just pay for a house. Besides, I just bought the compound two years ago. I'm planning to stay for a while.
So that's the short story and here is a really terrible picture of my beautiful ring.
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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 10:04 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Congrats CD!!!! You're inviting us all, right?
woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 10:06 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Congrats, CD! 
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
cryingdaily (original poster member #7276) posted at 10:27 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Haha. Besides, I figured I had to M him because he really likes the Posse and they like him. Even with the young ones running in and out of my house constantly, pregnant Xena coming in and stealing food (she has her own, mind you, she just says my food tastes better 
) and the general craziness of life at "The Compound"
And, apparently, I'm the only woman his kids have liked....and they happen to love me. 
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 10:33 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Congrats!!!
Failure is success if we learn from it.
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 10:34 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Yay! Congrats
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Kodi ( member #16237) posted at 10:41 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 10:48 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
You forgot to mention He's also passed the SI Florida contingent scrutiny!!!
Yay!!!!!! I'm so happy for you both!!!!! When are you planning the wedding?
Hugs,
K
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I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 10:55 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 11:16 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 12:13 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 1:09 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Congrats!! I was hoping you'd drop by soon. 
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
gardenparty ( member #12050) posted at 1:13 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Nice! Congratulations to you both.
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 1:47 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Congratulations!! and yeah, I was hoping to see you update here, too.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
cryingdaily (original poster member #7276) posted at 2:11 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
I know. I'm not one to put my feelings out in public or social media. In fact, my kids were the ones that posted it on FB. I still haven't. I'm way too private and guarded for all that. Some of that might also be fear based. I'm afraid if I put it out there, something will happen and I'll have to take it all back. 
I know, crazy right?
But I do feel safe enough here to tell you all where I'm at. Cuz I love you guys. 
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Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 2:15 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Congrats! So happy for you.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:18 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Congratulations!!!
(ps - GORGEOUS ring)
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 3:24 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Congrats!!!
Super happy for you!
GORGEOUS ring!
AJ'S MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
TrustedHer ( member #23328) posted at 4:00 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 4:41 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
This is so wonderful! Congratulations
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
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