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Topic: A long overdue update
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cryingdaily
♀ 7276
Member # 7276 |  Posted: 4:00 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 |     |
Oh boy. Here goes.
If you remember NOGuy (New Old Guy) you might remember that things started out a little rocky.
He was very needy and very clingy and I am neither of those things.
Well, after some ups and downs, he has eased up a lot and things got better.
It's been two years now that we've been dating and we ran into a new issue. He wants to get M. It's not that I don't want to, but I've been M twice and, obviously, those didn't work out. He, being a traditional type of guy, wants to do things the traditional way.
I knew it was my "stuff" (FOO stuff, past relationship stuff) that was keeping me from moving forward. I realized I needed to look past that and decide if I was ready to plan a future with another person or if I was ready to accept the fact that I would remain alone. While I'm a little freaked out about that prospect (and yes I've been honest about all of this with him) I decided I was ready to move forward and said yes.
So, it looks like I'm engaged.
He is going to sell his house and move into mine. We decided his is just too big and expensive and quite honestly, I want to do more things than just pay for a house. Besides, I just bought the compound two years ago. I'm planning to stay for a while.
So that's the short story and here is a really terrible picture of my beautiful ring.
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[This message edited by cryingdaily at 4:01 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]
Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD 3 - Tink
GS 2 - Little Prince
Posts: 14416 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts |
MovingUpward
♂ 14866
Member # 14866 | | Posted: 4:04 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congrats CD!!!! You're inviting us all, right?
AKA Moo
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Posts: 54367 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation |
woundedby2
♀ 18522
Member # 18522 | | Posted: 4:06 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congrats, CD! 
Me: BS
2 kids: DD16 and DS19
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
Posts: 7997 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal |
cryingdaily
♀ 7276
Member # 7276 | | Posted: 4:27 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Haha. Besides, I figured I had to M him because he really likes the Posse and they like him. Even with the young ones running in and out of my house constantly, pregnant Xena coming in and stealing food (she has her own, mind you, she just says my food tastes better  ) and the general craziness of life at "The Compound"
And, apparently, I'm the only woman his kids have liked....and they happen to love me. 
Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD 3 - Tink
GS 2 - Little Prince
Posts: 14416 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts |
little turtle
♀ 15584
Member # 15584 | | Posted: 4:33 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congrats!!!
Failure is success if we learn from it.
3 boys: 8, 10 and 3 months
Posts: 4604 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan |
Crescita
♀ 32616
Member # 32616 | | Posted: 4:34 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Yay! Congrats
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Posts: 3636 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun |
Kodi
♀ 16237
Member # 16237 | | Posted: 4:41 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Posts: 1399 | Registered: Sep 2007 |
Kajem
♀ 36134
Member # 36134 | | Posted: 4:48 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
You forgot to mention He's also passed the SI Florida contingent scrutiny!!!
Yay!!!!!! I'm so happy for you both!!!!! When are you planning the wedding?
Hugs,
K
[This message edited by Kajem at 4:50 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Posts: 6679 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida |
cmego
♀ 30346
Member # 30346 | | Posted: 4:55 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Awwww….congrats!!
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
Posts: 4611 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South |
gahurts
♂ 33699
Member # 33699 | | Posted: 5:16 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congratulations!!!
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Posts: 3960 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia |
devistatedmom
♀ 24961
Member # 24961 | | Posted: 6:13 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congrats crying!!!
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Posts: 5898 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada |
Amazonia
♀ 32810
Member # 32810 | | Posted: 7:09 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congrats!! I was hoping you'd drop by soon. 
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Posts: 14423 | Registered: Jul 2011 |
gardenparty
12050
Member # 12050 | | Posted: 7:13 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Nice! Congratulations to you both.
divorced!
Posts: 3012 | Registered: Sep 2006 | From: newfoundland |
inconnu
♀ 24518
Member # 24518 | | Posted: 7:47 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congratulations!! and yeah, I was hoping to see you update here, too.
Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we'll ever do. ~ Brené Brown
Posts: 12658 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartof, Texas |
cryingdaily
♀ 7276
Member # 7276 | | Posted: 8:11 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
I know. I'm not one to put my feelings out in public or social media. In fact, my kids were the ones that posted it on FB. I still haven't. I'm way too private and guarded for all that. Some of that might also be fear based. I'm afraid if I put it out there, something will happen and I'll have to take it all back. 
I know, crazy right?
But I do feel safe enough here to tell you all where I'm at. Cuz I love you guys.  [This message edited by cryingdaily at 8:12 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]
Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD 3 - Tink
GS 2 - Little Prince
Posts: 14416 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts |
Williesmom
♀ 22870
Member # 22870 | | Posted: 8:15 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congrats! So happy for you.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 8903 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 8:18 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congratulations!!!
(ps - GORGEOUS ring)
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Posts: 37287 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
ajsmom
♀ 17460
Member # 17460 | | Posted: 9:24 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Congrats!!!
Super happy for you!
GORGEOUS ring!
AJ'S MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 33 - Yikes!
Posts: 21308 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back |
TrustedHer
♂ 23328
Member # 23328 | | Posted: 10:00 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.
Posts: 5486 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX |
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239 | | Posted: 10:41 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014 | |
This is so wonderful! Congratulations
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Posts: 23774 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Southern New Mexico |
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