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Triggerish, Good Sign? Bad Sign?

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Wodnships posted 5/1/2014 16:32 PM

Or maybe it just "is what it is."

On the way into work today I heard Cat Stevens "Wild World." The song had me thinking back to Dday and the couple of days I thought my wife was leaving for another man.

Here is the thing, I didn't feel sad or anxious or negative. I didn't feel good about it per se. I just thought about it and how appropriate the song was to that time of my life. and once the song was over went on with my day.

I'm really not sure what it signifies. It was just a little strange.

Skan posted 5/1/2014 18:33 PM

Sounds like you may be getting a bit of a straight line on the rollercoaster. Not exactly up, but definitely not down. That's actually a good thing helps lead to acceptance, which is a step forward.

still-living posted 5/2/2014 06:18 AM

Progress my friend.. You don't forget, but the pain has been processed and it doesn't return.

I remember avoiding a parking lot where my wife had met the MOM. I would drive miles to avoid it. Four years later I actually parked in that parking lot with my wife to purchase an item from a store. I thought about the affair but did not trigger. There was no pain remaining to process.

kate0421 posted 5/2/2014 08:42 AM

I think it a positive sign. After dday there were soo many songs that would trigger me, sometimes I would just cry ( sometimes resulting in pulling over) and others I would be enraged with anger. Now I experience what you have explained and there are only a few songs that effect me, and they don't trigger me to the extreme anymore. Now I just might get a little sad inside but that's okay because it's an improvment.

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