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User Topic: Triggerish, Good Sign? Bad Sign?
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Or maybe it just "is what it is."

On the way into work today I heard Cat Stevens "Wild World." The song had me thinking back to Dday and the couple of days I thought my wife was leaving for another man.

Here is the thing, I didn't feel sad or anxious or negative. I didn't feel good about it per se. I just thought about it and how appropriate the song was to that time of my life. and once the song was over went on with my day.

I'm really not sure what it signifies. It was just a little strange.

me: BH 37
Her: WW 29

Married 6 years. Dating 10. Living together 8.

If a man took his time on earth
to prove be for he died
what on man's life could be worth
I wonder what would happen to the world

- Harry Chapin

Posts: 1149 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like you may be getting a bit of a straight line on the rollercoaster. Not exactly up, but definitely not down. That's actually a good thing helps lead to acceptance, which is a step forward.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 10056 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Default  Posted: 6:18 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Progress my friend.. You don't forget, but the pain has been processed and it doesn't return.

I remember avoiding a parking lot where my wife had met the MOM. I would drive miles to avoid it. Four years later I actually parked in that parking lot with my wife to purchase an item from a store. I thought about the affair but did not trigger. There was no pain remaining to process.

WW 47 FOO Issues
DDay 11/09 Coworker
High School Sweethearts
Married 06/91
8 months TT
Sons 19 and 14
Recovery is constructing a pyramid of inference from which to see clearer.
The process involves using the reflexive loop.

Posts: 1515 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Ches
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it a positive sign. After dday there were soo many songs that would trigger me, sometimes I would just cry ( sometimes resulting in pulling over) and others I would be enraged with anger. Now I experience what you have explained and there are only a few songs that effect me, and they don't trigger me to the extreme anymore. Now I just might get a little sad inside but that's okay because it's an improvment.

Together over 13yrs
2 children
DDAY 9/23/2013- 2 ONS (2009-2010)
TT. 5/14/2014- slept with OW1 twice

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