^^ what he said. If you know anything of ADs story you'll understand how astonishing this phenomena is.
Deep down, I suspect that not to be real and when he gets those papers he'll go back to angry.
This was what happened to me. I stayed the course and was so strong and focused on the road towards S/D but it was all in the hopes that it would wake him the fuck up. I'm lucky in that it didn't take long for his facade to fall. It was still shocking and disappointing when it did - it negated everything I had pinned my hopes on all through the 3m of False R. I realised it was all a lie. All of it. And I fell for it hook, line and sinker.
The agony was indescribable. Not just for what he had done to me but also what I had done to myself. I never want to feel even a fraction of that pain ever again.
But it is what finally set me free in the end.
You won't see it for a while but someday you'll be grateful for his complete lack of remorse - I now see it as a gift. I fast forwarded a process that might have been dragged out over a years long False R instead had he feigned remorse for a little longer. I would still be in False R now on my way to a DD#2, 3, 4 and wasting many more precious years being lied to, cheated on, gas lighted, disrespected and emotionally abused. That thought always makes me quake in my boots.
There's nothing stopping him from doing the work whether or not you offer the gift of R.
He lost the privilege of being taken on his word a long time ago. Ignore his words - watch his actions. There is no venom in true remorse - whether in R or S/D. Remember this when things get nasty.
Stay strong Klove - you don't need 2x4s, you need to remember what your eyes have seen, not what your heart wants to see.