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On the bright side, is there any better diet than the heartbreak diet? I've always been thin but had been struggling to lose the last few remaining baby pounds for a year. Boom - just like that, I'm back in my size 24 jeans and 0-2 dress size. I can go shopping in my own closet and rediscover all the cute things that had gotten a smidgen too tight - in addition to the new things I've acquired in my post-affair shopping spree. Ironic that the girl my husband cheated with was twice my size. To think of all the extra helpings of dessert I could have treated myself to over the years if only I had known he was into that sorta thing. Sometimes, I think I'm more mad about all those missed opportunities for cake. Lol. At least I haven't lost my ability to laugh at myself and the world around me.

P.S. I'm still up and down, but hopeful. H has been genuinely remorseful, has maintained NC, and we both believe we can get our marriage to a stronger place than it's ever been. There is still much love between us, so I am hopeful - but wisely wary - that we can make it work.

[This message edited by Thella at 8:25 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]

Good for u. What r u doing to heal u and the M

We've had countless discussions in which he's seemed remorseful and totally committed to making this work. We have our second MC session this weekend. As for myself, I've stopped allowing myself to dwell on or hate the other woman. When she pops into my mind, I remind myself that she was insignificant. I enjoy time with my baby boy, my family, friends, reading, and TV. I am committed to making this work, but if he does not live up to his end, I know that I am a strong, beautiful (not trying to sound vain - I'm sorry if it does) intelligent young woman and I'll be ok.

You are doing incredibly well Thella. And yes--the I diet is a minor benefit! Probably the only time in my life I just haven't cared about eating or not struggled to exercise restraint.

Yeah, I loved being able to get into my cute jeans again! I love those jeans! Unfortunately, I let the weight creep back on and now am eating mostly Vegan/Vegetarian to try to drop the rest of the weight as well as upping my workouts.

Laugh when you can. Laughter helps ease the soul.

Yup! DS is only 9 months. Thanks, dad, for fuckin around while I was at home nursing, but back into a size 2. So at least if I leave your ass, I'll look good doing it!