Costco had a sale last month, so WH decided to take in all of our old videos & have them converted to DVDs. Now they are ready, & the link came in the email.
Lots of cute videos of the kids when they were young, & its funny how when you see them, you relive the moment & remember exactly what you were thinking then.
Of course, our Wedding video was there too.
I should have burned that on Dday.
So, I made the mistake of watching it today.
It's all there. Our friends & family---some are gone now.
Us, blissfully happy, taking our vows.
Putting the rings on each other's fingers.
We promised to love, honor, & cherish each other & be faithful.
Those vows are crystal clear---there is no room for doubt about what they mean.
Of course, WH should have added, at the end of his vows: "until a SLUT throws herself on me."
Just like WH, I work with members of the opposite sex too. Men have "come on" to me since I got married, & I walked the other way & stayed away. There was never any question about that for me. I found it insulting that they had so little respect for my husband, my marriage & family.
But you see, that's the difference between me & WH:
My identity was "WE", & his identity was "me".
I would never do anything without first thinking how it would affect him & the kids.
I have read hundreds of books since Dday, been to hours of counseling, cried an ocean of tears, talked & talked & talked , & been on this site for many many hours...
& I still don't have the answer.
What about the vows you made to that person? I guess they mean nothing to you. How can you do that to your life partner & the parent of your children?
Someone tell me.
[This message edited by mchercheur at 9:19 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]